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Why you're in trouble: You worked harder than them - and it sounds like you didn't get compensated enough for the hard work. They broke your trust. Since you wo

Why you're in trouble: You worked harder than them - and it sounds like you didn't get compensated enough for the hard work. They broke your trust. Since you work way harder than them (for free), they think you're desperate and have no respect for you. This is a power play and they've been calling your bluff for the last six months. You keep asking for their permission and they have no respect for you. So, the question is - what leverage do you have? Can you make it more painful for them than for you?

jFriedensreich 5y ago
I feel happy with my compensation, i get enough money (so not for free) and my shares are not a lot but ok with me. I love the product (and the tech team by the way) and being able to work on a product i love is really what i want. But for this reason i have indeed zero leverage because they know i would never actually walk away from it. I could easily make it painful for them but not without hurting the company more than already and that would cross the line to putting the future in danger which would help no one. They indeed have no respect for me but as long as i had control over the product this did not bother me.
- givemeethekeys 5y ago
  Well, you've reasoned yourself into a hole. They crossed whatever line you're not willing to cross a long time ago. They neither respect you nor fear you. You will not earn either by being a doormat. Good luck!
- travisjungroth 5y ago
  The fact that you would never actually walk away seems very relevant to your original questions.
- tacostakohashi 5y ago
  > have no respect for me but as long as i had control over the product Is this actually about the colors, or is it really about you needing to have control and be heard? As a number of people have pointed out, you can fix the color problem with some configuration options, or introducing themes. That could actually improve the product too, "dark mode" is all the rage these days, etc. Your situation seems to boil down to a few questionable assumptions: * everyone needs to be using and seeing the same colors * you need to have some control, input, or veto power over what those colors are That's not a good way to operate. What would you do if someone else with your same level of sensitivity to colors and shapes joined the team, only they were triggered by your favorite colors, and insisted on switching to the colors that trigger you?

jFriedensreich 5y ago

I feel happy with my compensation, i get enough money (so not for free) and my shares are not a lot but ok with me. I love the product (and the tech team by the way) and being able to work on a product i love is really what i want. But for this reason i have indeed zero leverage because they know i would never actually walk away from it. I could easily make it painful for them but not without hurting the company more than already and that would cross the line to putting the future in danger which would help no one. They indeed have no respect for me but as long as i had control over the product this did not bother me.

givemeethekeys 5y ago
Well, you've reasoned yourself into a hole. They crossed whatever line you're not willing to cross a long time ago. They neither respect you nor fear you. You will not earn either by being a doormat. Good luck!
travisjungroth 5y ago
The fact that you would never actually walk away seems very relevant to your original questions.
tacostakohashi 5y ago
> have no respect for me but as long as i had control over the product Is this actually about the colors, or is it really about you needing to have control and be heard? As a number of people have pointed out, you can fix the color problem with some configuration options, or introducing themes. That could actually improve the product too, "dark mode" is all the rage these days, etc. Your situation seems to boil down to a few questionable assumptions: * everyone needs to be using and seeing the same colors * you need to have some control, input, or veto power over what those colors are That's not a good way to operate. What would you do if someone else with your same level of sensitivity to colors and shapes joined the team, only they were triggered by your favorite colors, and insisted on switching to the colors that trigger you?