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The book The Now Habit has helped me

by nso95 5y ago

copperx 5y ago
Can you share briefly how it has helped you?
- eitland 5y ago
  Not GP and hopefully GP might come back too and answer but I think the book is useful to different people in different ways - even if it is a very short book. One idea that stuck with me both for myself and in a team setting: Fear of failure and how it is overcome: at one point the book tells the reader to imagine walking across a 2x4 beam or something laying on the ground, then walking across the same beam between two highrise towers. The first is really simple, the second is something most of us would never do if we could avoid it even if we knew the beam is perfectly safe. Now the author ask the reader to imagine being stuck at the top of the high rise with a fire raging below and coming closer. Most can probably now imagine themselves crossing the beam in some way, if nothing else by sitting on their butts inching themselves across. This is a someone who has a pathological fear of failure when a deadline is looming. Last the author asks the reader to imagine walking the same beam between the same two highrises but now there is no fire and there is a perfect safety net directly below it. Most people could probably do this, many would even enjoy it. This is a challenging job with a "safety net" where failing is safe. I realize Neil Fiore didn't come up with this, this goes further back, see for example https://medium.com/s/radical-spirits/the-man-who-helped-the-beatles-admit-its-getting-better-3ddcf1afbbb3 https://medium.com/s/radical-spirits/the-man-who-helped-the-... ... but the book is were I learned about this example.
- nso95 5y ago
  Procrastination is usually caused by anxiety and the way we speak to ourselves, and this book is all about addressing that. You can have all sorts of rules and systems, but if you don't treat yourself with positivity and respect none of those will matter. My biggest takeaways are that you should not let work bleed into your leisure time, and you shouldn't base your self worth on your work.
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The book The Now Habit has helped me

by nso95 5y ago

The book The Now Habit has helped me

copperx 5y ago

Can you share briefly how it has helped you?

eitland 5y ago
Not GP and hopefully GP might come back too and answer but I think the book is useful to different people in different ways - even if it is a very short book. One idea that stuck with me both for myself and in a team setting: Fear of failure and how it is overcome: at one point the book tells the reader to imagine walking across a 2x4 beam or something laying on the ground, then walking across the same beam between two highrise towers. The first is really simple, the second is something most of us would never do if we could avoid it even if we knew the beam is perfectly safe. Now the author ask the reader to imagine being stuck at the top of the high rise with a fire raging below and coming closer. Most can probably now imagine themselves crossing the beam in some way, if nothing else by sitting on their butts inching themselves across. This is a someone who has a pathological fear of failure when a deadline is looming. Last the author asks the reader to imagine walking the same beam between the same two highrises but now there is no fire and there is a perfect safety net directly below it. Most people could probably do this, many would even enjoy it. This is a challenging job with a "safety net" where failing is safe. I realize Neil Fiore didn't come up with this, this goes further back, see for example https://medium.com/s/radical-spirits/the-man-who-helped-the-beatles-admit-its-getting-better-3ddcf1afbbb3 https://medium.com/s/radical-spirits/the-man-who-helped-the-... ... but the book is were I learned about this example.
nso95 5y ago
Procrastination is usually caused by anxiety and the way we speak to ourselves, and this book is all about addressing that. You can have all sorts of rules and systems, but if you don't treat yourself with positivity and respect none of those will matter. My biggest takeaways are that you should not let work bleed into your leisure time, and you shouldn't base your self worth on your work.

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