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> Your boss is gaslighting & intimidating you. Yep. And it won't be the last time. There are a lot of people who deliberately manage this way - in fact, a lo

> Your boss is gaslighting & intimidating you. Yep. And it won't be the last time. There are a lot of people who deliberately manage this way - in fact, a lot of times they're promoted to management because they act this way. For the most part, it's bluster and you can ignore it. It's really, really hard to find programmers and, no matter how good a programmer they found, the next one won't be as capable as you because he/she will need to spend time coming up to speed on the codebase as well as the rest of the company. That is assuming of course, that you're actually doing the best work you're capable of. If you really are slacking off unreasonably, stop - but if you're not, then there's not much else you can do except be fatalistic about this job and take comfort in the fact that in our business, jobs are easy to come by.

hsbauauvhabzb 5y ago
I don’t think someone slacking off would post on hn as emotionally agnostic as op. It does sound like there’s a fair amount of gaslighting though, if you associate ‘the performance of the project’ with yourself as a junior, that’s on your manager - if you screw up, it’s their fault for not providing top cover. I employ one full timer and another junior, most screwup’s are my miscommunications or me not setting expectations. @op, Mind if I ask, are you part of any minorities which may result in you being bullied? Obviously you don’t have to answer, and I don’t want to gaslight you, but a lot of *ist behaviour I see is smart enough to be camouflaged. To be clear though, junior’s screwing up is par for the course, if you’re a net zero (bring in as much income/productivity as you burn in screwups, but with the ability to learn), I’d consider you a win.