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“It’s about making them a certain way because it sounds cool” is an interesting statement to make. It assumes my mental state and motivations. With all things

“It’s about making them a certain way because it sounds cool” is an interesting statement to make. It assumes my mental state and motivations. With all things parenting, there are many correct ways to go about raising kids. Whatever you want to call it, I’m trying to raise mine to be resilient, recognize self imposed limitations, to be humble and to recognize the value of hard work and self discipline. Feel free to disregard the suggestion of those things aren’t interesting to you as a parent raising a child. Finally, there’s a huge amount of warrior worship these days (I have my own theory why but I’ll hold that back), so I understand skepticism of the book based off its title.

watwut 5y ago
> It’s about making them a certain way because it sounds cool” is an interesting statement to make. It assumes my mental state and motivations. It was snarky comment about book title. Which is super clearly about sounding cool. Unless it has stuff about how to indoctrinate kids into beheading enemies without feeling of guilt or some such. Nothing to do with your motivation.
- mrkentutbabi 5y ago
  What about defending your own country or family from invasion?
  - watwut 5y ago
    That would be "soldiers" and "army". Which sounds less cool and less mystical. And then again, the terms cover aggressors too. So you want the kids to distinguish between defensive and "take over the world" army in the first place. People who identify with "fighter" will join any army, but especially attacking army. It projects strength and aggression. Pretty much all conquerors to be including genocide first taught young men to have "warrior" values. I don't specifically want to raise kids to be soldiers either, tho they may join. In that case, army is quite capable of shaping recruits into the mold they need. And it is different mold then civilian life requires.

watwut 5y ago

> It’s about making them a certain way because it sounds cool” is an interesting statement to make. It assumes my mental state and motivations. It was snarky comment about book title. Which is super clearly about sounding cool. Unless it has stuff about how to indoctrinate kids into beheading enemies without feeling of guilt or some such. Nothing to do with your motivation.

mrkentutbabi 5y ago
What about defending your own country or family from invasion?
- watwut 5y ago
  That would be "soldiers" and "army". Which sounds less cool and less mystical. And then again, the terms cover aggressors too. So you want the kids to distinguish between defensive and "take over the world" army in the first place. People who identify with "fighter" will join any army, but especially attacking army. It projects strength and aggression. Pretty much all conquerors to be including genocide first taught young men to have "warrior" values. I don't specifically want to raise kids to be soldiers either, tho they may join. In that case, army is quite capable of shaping recruits into the mold they need. And it is different mold then civilian life requires.