Possibly the hardest part of my life. Almost all of the other family members decided they were not going to try to help. Mother did not really want help taking

Possibly the hardest part of my life. Almost all of the other family members decided they were not going to try to help. Mother did not really want help taking care of father, resorted to yelling sometimes when he couldn't move and she didn't have the strength. She insisted on lifestyle choices that accelerated her death and refused medical treatment that could have extended it. After she passed, still close to zero help from most family members taking care of father or hiring help. That type of behavior, crawling up the stairs, is not rational. If you have funds, I would start by looking for help such as on https://care.com https://care.com. If you are lucky you may be able to find someone who can convince him to stop. It's easy to say, but you can try insisting, or even physically blocking off the stairs. And if having hired help around the house does not seem like enough, do not feel guilty about putting him in some type of facility, as long as it's a good one. There are a lot of bad ones unfortunately. The hardest part of that is the cost. I don't know a good way to handle it. It might come down to him having the choice of living downstairs or being dragged into some assisted living facility. Or the third option of just waiting for him to roll down the stairs and break his body. But my suggestion is to get professional help if possible, and make it very clear to other family members that this is their burden also.