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I'd think anyone hiring a personal assistant would be on the advantageous end of a financial power imbalance. Are you just saying a young man wouldn't be hired

I'd think anyone hiring a personal assistant would be on the advantageous end of a financial power imbalance. Are you just saying a young man wouldn't be hired to clean a house so it's embarrassing when a woman cleans a house? I think the important thing is to pay cleaners enough and make reasonable requests, not refuse to work with them. (I don't have a cleaner, if it matters.)

walrus01 5y ago
I'm saying this person seems to have specifically chosen a person for the duties of what they described as a 1950s housewife, which is rather suspicious in my opinion.
- 1123581321 5y ago
  Ah, I think you just misread, then. They seem to have realized what the arrangement looks like after the fact.
  - walrus01 5y ago
    this is why I said "unconsciously", I'm asking them to reflect on whether or not they would have hired an equally-or-better qualified male for the same duties. or whether they went straight to "i'm gonna hire a housewife" without thinking about it as a specific choice. if by some chance the original poster here is not a dude, it's a whole lot less sketchy in my opinion.
    - 1123581321 5y ago
      Makes sense. Hopefully your comment was beneficial for them.
    - helsinki 5y ago
      Ah, I figured the housewife comment would wreak some havoc, but I can’t really think of a better way to describe. There is no emotional or romantic attachment. If anything, it is friendly, at best. Nothing to really read between the lines on this. It’s a transactional, platonic relationship.
      - Arete314159 5y ago
        I'm a woman. I've worked in office jobs. I frequently have noticed that getting "life" stuff done is very hard because office jobs were created in the 1950's, when they assumed everyone had a wife at home to take care of "everything else." It makes sense that helsinki is describing his assistant as a 1950's housewife, because all those tasks are the ones that are hard to do now, and where the gaps are these days.
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    - kortilla 5y ago
      > I'm asking them to reflect Give how absolutely little you know about this situation, that was completely out of line and asinine. You jumped to a conclusion to polish a hobby horse, completely derailed the conversation, and got downvoted for it. I’m asking you to reflect on how condescending and presumptuous your original comment was.
      - walrus01 5y ago
        Nah, describing your employee as a 1950s housewife is misogynistic, patriarchal and I'll double down on what I said.
        1123581321 5y ago
        Speaking of speech patterns, the one where someone responds to being schooled in multiple ways with “nah…” is an Internet staple. It’s not convincing, but it must be fun to write? :)
        walrus01 5y ago
        You seem to be under the misconception that I have been "schooled". None of the other opinions expressed in this thread in any way change my opinion that calling someone a 1950s housewife is an insult to an employee's dignity.
  - helsinki 5y ago
    Correct.

walrus01 5y ago

I'm saying this person seems to have specifically chosen a person for the duties of what they described as a 1950s housewife, which is rather suspicious in my opinion.

1123581321 5y ago
Ah, I think you just misread, then. They seem to have realized what the arrangement looks like after the fact.
- walrus01 5y ago
  this is why I said "unconsciously", I'm asking them to reflect on whether or not they would have hired an equally-or-better qualified male for the same duties. or whether they went straight to "i'm gonna hire a housewife" without thinking about it as a specific choice. if by some chance the original poster here is not a dude, it's a whole lot less sketchy in my opinion.
  - 1123581321 5y ago
    Makes sense. Hopefully your comment was beneficial for them.
  - helsinki 5y ago
    Ah, I figured the housewife comment would wreak some havoc, but I can’t really think of a better way to describe. There is no emotional or romantic attachment. If anything, it is friendly, at best. Nothing to really read between the lines on this. It’s a transactional, platonic relationship.
    - Arete314159 5y ago
      I'm a woman. I've worked in office jobs. I frequently have noticed that getting "life" stuff done is very hard because office jobs were created in the 1950's, when they assumed everyone had a wife at home to take care of "everything else." It makes sense that helsinki is describing his assistant as a 1950's housewife, because all those tasks are the ones that are hard to do now, and where the gaps are these days.
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  - kortilla 5y ago
    > I'm asking them to reflect Give how absolutely little you know about this situation, that was completely out of line and asinine. You jumped to a conclusion to polish a hobby horse, completely derailed the conversation, and got downvoted for it. I’m asking you to reflect on how condescending and presumptuous your original comment was.
    - walrus01 5y ago
      Nah, describing your employee as a 1950s housewife is misogynistic, patriarchal and I'll double down on what I said.
      - 1123581321 5y ago
        Speaking of speech patterns, the one where someone responds to being schooled in multiple ways with “nah…” is an Internet staple. It’s not convincing, but it must be fun to write? :)
        walrus01 5y ago
        You seem to be under the misconception that I have been "schooled". None of the other opinions expressed in this thread in any way change my opinion that calling someone a 1950s housewife is an insult to an employee's dignity.
- helsinki 5y ago
  Correct.