I would operationalize it by simplifying it to habits: -Avoid declining invitations to go out, unless it's really necessary -Try to find other people who don't

I would operationalize it by simplifying it to habits: -Avoid declining invitations to go out, unless it's really necessary -Try to find other people who don't like drinking. Most of my work colleagues don't drink, and a couple old high school friends who I see occasionally also don't drink. Day activities, like lunch, are pretty good. -Martial arts is a good way to meet other guys. Volunteering, especially if you're in a unique role that interacts with lots of other people (e.g. help desk), is helpful. -Don't worry about age so much after a certain age. Lots of people like to hang out with others who are fun to hang out with, with age being not as relevant. -Try for a mix of both. In college, most of my organizational activities had majority women by a significant (writing, etc.; though I never dated anyone there), but I actually missed out with guys-only events. I didn't realize it until I met up with some old high school friends, and felt free to talk about relationships with them. I'm also sorry to hear about your friend. It was really kind of you to reach out to him; a lot of people don't when they see people are struggling. You were there and available for him, which is rare and can help so much.