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> But if I hear that someone was unfaithful to their spouse, my business trust in them goes waaay down. Same here. I actually don't know why it doesn't seem to

> But if I hear that someone was unfaithful to their spouse, my business trust in them goes waaay down. Same here. I actually don't know why it doesn't seem to affect people's thoughts about politicians. People are absolutely willing to separate what they know about a person's personal life from what they think about that person's politics. For me it's a scarlet letter. I get maybe an hour of talk about each candidate when there's an election, and it's one-way. I don't get to ask them anything, I just get told some mix of what they say and what the news says. Why would I trust someone who has demonstrated untrustworthiness to the one person they've spent the most time with? I just don't get why people are so willing to create a business box-of-facts and a personal-box-of-facts when they discover something like this. Fact is business relationships are personal. You even do the same things when you're meeting business partners for heavens sake: One of you invites the other out and pays for it. You go for a meal or a drink. You go to gatherings together. Ghosting each other (LOL).

ookdatnog 5y ago
I liked this scene from the Danish movie "Druk" https://youtu.be/iS4CHNHm9a0 https://youtu.be/iS4CHNHm9a0.
- toyg 5y ago
  "Vegetarians Hate This One Trick" when I bring up that they share the habit with "candidate 3".
nindalf 5y ago
Nothing to say about cheating or personal relationships but it helps to be able to compartmentalise in some cases. There’s a person on HN who comments frequently. Very level headed, measured, informative comments. Always tries to lower the temperature of discussions. Very refreshing to read their comments. I followed them on Twitter and found a very different approach. It felt like two different people. But honestly they were able to compartmentalise these two personas and it worked. I figured I should probably compartmentalise too. I wouldn’t invite the Twitter persona to a technical discussion but I would invite the HN persona. And as long as only the HN persona showed up, what does it matter to me what the Twitter persona does on the weekend?
brigandish 5y ago
> Why would I trust someone who has demonstrated untrustworthiness to the one person they've spent the most time with? That's a bit like expecting someone to be mean to you because they're mean to their brother. Close relationships are often conducted in a manner far different to other relationships. What if the person wants some space but the other doesn't give any? What if their spouse is mean but they put up with it because they have children? There could be a hundred reasons. Above all though, life is complicated, and in the case of politicians the field is often limited (by those with real power) to one liar who might be less worse than another liar. I'm actually surprised that people pick so well given these constraints.

ookdatnog 5y ago

I liked this scene from the Danish movie "Druk" https://youtu.be/iS4CHNHm9a0 https://youtu.be/iS4CHNHm9a0.

toyg 5y ago
"Vegetarians Hate This One Trick" when I bring up that they share the habit with "candidate 3".

nindalf 5y ago

Nothing to say about cheating or personal relationships but it helps to be able to compartmentalise in some cases. There’s a person on HN who comments frequently. Very level headed, measured, informative comments. Always tries to lower the temperature of discussions. Very refreshing to read their comments. I followed them on Twitter and found a very different approach. It felt like two different people. But honestly they were able to compartmentalise these two personas and it worked. I figured I should probably compartmentalise too. I wouldn’t invite the Twitter persona to a technical discussion but I would invite the HN persona. And as long as only the HN persona showed up, what does it matter to me what the Twitter persona does on the weekend?

brigandish 5y ago

> Why would I trust someone who has demonstrated untrustworthiness to the one person they've spent the most time with? That's a bit like expecting someone to be mean to you because they're mean to their brother. Close relationships are often conducted in a manner far different to other relationships. What if the person wants some space but the other doesn't give any? What if their spouse is mean but they put up with it because they have children? There could be a hundred reasons. Above all though, life is complicated, and in the case of politicians the field is often limited (by those with real power) to one liar who might be less worse than another liar. I'm actually surprised that people pick so well given these constraints.