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Why is alimony stupid? I haven't really heard any good arguments against it.

echelon 5y ago
Why should you be forced by the state to pay your ex that is no longer a part of your life? It's a form of indentured servitude, sometimes granted to someone that you hate or that hates you.
- Thlom 5y ago
  It makes sense if your ex stayed out of the workplace during your relationship to take care of children and the home.
  - echelon 5y ago
    And if there are no children and both partners work?
  - gremloni 5y ago
    Well then now that you’re divorced you need to go find a job. Sure it may not pay as well as it might have but you had the pleasure of staying at home and spending time with the kids. Why is the working person the only one punished in this situation?
- crooked-v 5y ago
  Alimony is useful in a context where wages are sufficient for one parent to stay at home full-time. Part of the reason it seems so out of place today is that as a society we've let average wages stagnate so far that living on one wage is impossible for most couples.
helloworld11 5y ago
You don't think the idea of having to support a spouse as if they were incapacitated or a child for years after you've gone your separate ways absurd? In a society where supposedly, both men and women are equal to boot? And the base justification being little more than that you happened to have lived together for a time as partners.
imtringued 5y ago
It's a really strange way to run an insurance program. A portion of your salary goes to mandatory unemployment insurance in Germany. If alimony was fair it would be charged the same way on married people and paid by both parties.
jk20 5y ago
Because women routinely abuse them. The way out of marriage for them should only be to leave everything behind, children including, and to get a job.
- gremloni 5y ago
  I agree with everything except leave the children behind. That should be a decision made by the judge on who is the better parent or at least a sharing based situation.

Why should you be forced by the state to pay your ex that is no longer a part of your life? It's a form of indentured servitude, sometimes granted to someone that you hate or that hates you.

Thlom 5y ago
It makes sense if your ex stayed out of the workplace during your relationship to take care of children and the home.
- echelon 5y ago
  And if there are no children and both partners work?
- gremloni 5y ago
  Well then now that you’re divorced you need to go find a job. Sure it may not pay as well as it might have but you had the pleasure of staying at home and spending time with the kids. Why is the working person the only one punished in this situation?
crooked-v 5y ago
Alimony is useful in a context where wages are sufficient for one parent to stay at home full-time. Part of the reason it seems so out of place today is that as a society we've let average wages stagnate so far that living on one wage is impossible for most couples.

helloworld11 5y ago

You don't think the idea of having to support a spouse as if they were incapacitated or a child for years after you've gone your separate ways absurd? In a society where supposedly, both men and women are equal to boot? And the base justification being little more than that you happened to have lived together for a time as partners.

imtringued 5y ago

It's a really strange way to run an insurance program. A portion of your salary goes to mandatory unemployment insurance in Germany. If alimony was fair it would be charged the same way on married people and paid by both parties.

jk20 5y ago

Because women routinely abuse them. The way out of marriage for them should only be to leave everything behind, children including, and to get a job.

gremloni 5y ago
I agree with everything except leave the children behind. That should be a decision made by the judge on who is the better parent or at least a sharing based situation.