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Ask HN: What are the biggest problems in your life?
What are the biggest problems/annoyances/inconveniences in your life? Could be work-related, personal life, etc.
- dijereedan 5y agoThe apathy that accompanies depression. Most days, I can't complete simple chores let alone the important duties required of an adult with a house and family.
- all2 5y agoMy dude, I have been here. I set my "baseline self care" to try and combat some of this. 1. eat enough 2. sleep enough (you're depressed, you need more sleep than normal) 3. read the Bible That last one is for christian folks. My faith and dependence on God has been the thing that has allowed me to pull through. Self-care comes in close second.
- shannifin 5y agoNot enough income. Inability to focus. Inability to maintain a routine or sleep schedule.
- all2 5y agoI recommend not worrying about a "sleep schedule" and just get enough sleep. Shoot for getting up 8 hours from when you go to bed.
- blodkorv 5y agoInability to maintain a routine or sleep schedule and the fight of keeping a negative calorie balance to loose weight.
- gaws 5y ago> balance to loose weight. add spelling
- orian 5y agotoo much work :P not enough time with family and friends
- warxmike 5y agocomparison w/ people that are younger, smarter and have accomplished more.
- FerretFred 5y agoGive it (say) 5 years, do the comparison again and note how many of those people have burned out, being unable to handle the fame/power/money. There's always an advantage to being "ordinary" and once someone's achieved a certain level it can be really difficult to sustain it.
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- bickeringyokel 5y agoA todo list that will never be completed, and only gets longer.
- rhn_mk1 5y agoThat problem can be turned into a boon. You have a better chance that there's something interesting on the list you actually want to do. Or important ones, or whatever you care about. What about the ones you don't care about as much? Well, you don't care about them, so not doing them is not a problem. An overlong todo list is a nice tool to help prioritize the valuable things.
- bickeringyokel 5y agoI try to pick 10 or so things a day I can actually get done. That does help me feel like I accomplished at least a little bit.
- 100011_100001 5y agoI have a rule. If something stays in my list for longer than a month, it's not that important. I would suggest you just remove it, but fear of missing out is a thing. So instead you can have a low priority todo list and move it there.
- bickeringyokel 5y agoI do throw things into various priority lists and categories, but it still makes me sad that I won't get around to some of them for months or years
- killtimeatwork 5y ago1. Immature people in my family. 2. Not enough energy and not great health (I get sick rather easily when I get outside during less than perfect weather).
- trinovantes 5y agoI'm almost 30 and still have to deal with acne
- willcipriano 5y agoHave you tried accutane? I have a family history of adult acne, took accutane in my early 20's and after six months it was permanently gone. They used to call me "Pizza Face McGee" it was that bad.
- regitempus 5y agoSorry but lmao @ Pizza Face McGee
- willcipriano 5y agoIt's fine. Andy Dick had his own show and that was one of the sketches. I gave as good as I got back then.
- eurasiantiger 5y agoIf you also have dandruff and/or itchy scalp, it’s most likely a Malassezia infection that’s also affecting your face.
- quazar987 5y agoThere’s no perfect pillow, its little bigger or smaller, always
- leafygreene 5y agoAnd once you become accustomed to your imperfect pillow, no other will do!
- mastrsushi 5y agoSustained post concussive symptoms Patella Femoral Syndrome Arthritis in my back at age 27 You guys are wimps
- annie_muss 5y agoI cannot follow a plan. I know what I need to do but do not do it.
- blodkorv 5y agoI feel you, i have the same issue
- asyrafql 5y agosustain attention :P
- FerretFred 5y ago30+ years of being the sole data-handling tech resource for a company that's expanded like crazy, just over 1 year to retirement and nobody, but nobody has even started talking about replacing me.
- gtsteve 5y agoThat sounds like the company's problem, not yours, although being evidently a conscientious sort I can see why you'd take it as your own. If your company has a risk register, this is an important item to add, and if not it's time to make one.
- FerretFred 5y agoYes, a lot of people outside the company have said that. I feel a degree of loyalty having been there right from the start, but I'm sure this will disappear in a year's time :) The risk register is an interesting thought which I'll check out; thanks!
- leafygreene 5y agoThat's when you bill them $500/hr for your services out of retirement.
- chefkoch 5y agoThat sounds like some sweet consulting money.
- superflit2 5y agoTo whom I send my CV?
- TheHnMaster 5y agoMy kids slowing down my career
- codingdave 5y agoMine is the opposite - my career slowing down my life with my kids.
- chefkoch 5y agowhat do i want to do with my life?
- leafygreene 5y agoYou don't have to do anything. You don't have to be anyone. You don't have to go anywhere. Life is not going to stop because you don't do something with your life. What are the 100 trillion lifeforms on earth, 8 billion of them human, doing that's so essential? Nadda.
- leafygreene 5y agoAnd there's a lot to being an Everyman. It's not a life lived unwell, or it doesn't have to be. One could well argue that unwellness is a function of doing. Read I. Berlin’s In Defense of Idleness.
- giantg2 5y agoSon's medical issue, wife's medical issue, I hate my job with no end in sight, and I rarely get to do anything I would enjoy (hobbies).
- 100011_100001 5y agoSorry to hear that. Having had a wife with medical issues I feel your pain. No matter what you do, you feel guilty or frustrated, which makes everything else frustrating too. If financially able I would recommend hiring people to help. It can be from care, to cleaning the house, getting your groceries. Outsourcing costs money, but it will create time for yourself.
- vcoelho 5y agoBrazil
- llamajams 5y agoStarted a business with my dad, brother joined a few years later, it's been 13 years now, we've put our blood into it , same with every one in the family. We prioritised the business over everything, health, relationship, friends,all our life savings buying a house. Covid hit us pretty bad, missed some payments, 3 days from now I'm probably gonna throw the downpayment I've been saving at it, but the lawyers's have fucked up and it might go under and we'll lose everything. Might have to support them indefinitely. I think it's over with the girl i like. Smoking more than ever, getting high every day.
- lamroger 5y agodamn dude - hope things turn around for yall
- leafygreene 5y agoThe thing with small businesses is that it's all-consuming. If you think you can squeeze work-life balance out of a business, then you are borderline delusional. The (false) freedom, (unstable flow of) money, and (faux) independence of being a business owner can seem great, but the 24/7/365 grind isn't worth it for so many who try. I didn't have a weekend off for 9 years! If your business fails, take the lessons and run, particularly with regard to whether you want to be owned again by your livelyhood in future endeavors. Maybe failure is the door you've been looking for. Don't be afraid of it.
- nobodyandproud 5y agoWhy isn’t Medicare gradually phased-in starting at 40 or 50? Why are my sheltered retirement funds only available penalty-free at 60 and onward? Can I survive and thrive in tech into my 50s?
- leafygreene 5y agore: survival in 50s. Only if you are by then successful. If not, your career will stall late 30s when you realize tech is age-bound, however immoral or illegal. They absolutely will hire 2 inexperienced college grads over paying for your 25 years of experience everytime.
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- culopatin 5y agoI’m almost 30 and I’m still chasing the career I want. I’m in IT, but I want to be in software dev. I want to build things, not just fix them. When I was 17 a company poached my from my technical high school and put me in the field to learn by doing. It went great, but it’s not the career I want. I need to find the same opportunity but in a software developer role. I’m confident that I’ll be a sponge and I’ll produce results quickly under someone’s wing, but it’s rare that someone wants that with such competitive market. If someone here is curious about this, please reach out, I’m willing to take it as a second job part time if you can’t pay much, or even if you can’t pay. All I need is an opportunity to get my foot in the door.
- mastrsushi 5y agoI don’t want to discourage you, but A LOT of software engineering is fixing things. Coming from someone who also said “I want to build things not fix them” when I picked CS when I was 18. To be fair, I went to ODU though and didn’t have the best grades.
- culopatin 5y agoI understand that and I’m ready to do that. But I see it as being part of the group that is building something. In IT, unless you are an architect, things are pretty much set. I understand that I romanticize it a bit, but I won’t settle until I try for myself. I think this is what I want my career to be so I’m trying to go for it. If it’s not, then I’ll go for mechanical engineering and I’ll start all over. Mech eng would line up with my hobby of racing cars in part.
- willcipriano 5y agoSomeone close to me is mentally ill and off medication and I have to deal with the fallout of her choices.
- leafygreene 5y agoWe malign China's social credit system, but the same systems exists in America, only worse. We have “credit systems” for everything: financial, criminal, employment, race, sex, social, etc. These systems forget nothing, and they can be used in perpetuity to support any decision needed for or against you: a job, a house, a life, etc. We built these systems. We wrote every if/then/else reject algorithm out there, consequence: rejection. The algorithm does not love you; therefore, begone! And to see just how much it loves you (or doesn't), try pulling a comprehensive background check on yourself. Records you thought gone 20 years ago? Ha! As if. Try applying for a job using an HR system like Taleo, ADP, etc. You have sins, financial problem, criminal record, hole in resumé? Your application will never see human eyes. It won't even be marked for review. I hope for your sake that you never make even a modest mistake.