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Oh, sure. My wife will notice I'm excited and be happy. And listen patiently and try and understand. But it's not the same as bragging or complaining about i
by mlyle 5y ago
Oh, sure. My wife will notice I'm excited and be happy. And listen patiently and try and understand.
But it's not the same as bragging or complaining about it to my nerd buddies, you know?
At one point, this used to really bum me out, but it was really an unrealistic expectation.
- Aeolun 5y agoI like it when my partner can at least ask intelligent questions about the thing I am enthusiastic about though. They don’t really have to understand it, just get the general idea.
- asdfasgasdgasdg 5y agoThere's a spectrum of possible behaviors here, both on the part of the sender and the receiver. As someone who is interested in things that someone else isn't interested in, it's important to regulate how much time you spend talking about those topics. For example, it's fine to bring up a videogame with non-gamers once in a while, but if your every conversation is about that, it's going to annoy the people listening to you, even if they are the most generous conversation partners in the world. Only get a seven year old talking about their favorite Nintendo game to see how wearing that can be.
- Aeolun 5y agoYeah, I was talking about the quality of the conversation here, not the quantity. If someone is a great listener but never really responds I feel like I’m carrying on by myself, I might as well be talking to a tree.