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> in the typical contemporary urban center, you're just as likely to end up on someone's "I don't owe you my attention" tiktok video as you are to have a mutual
by baobabKoodaa 5y ago
> in the typical contemporary urban center, you're just as likely to end up on someone's "I don't owe you my attention" tiktok video as you are to have a mutually positive interaction.
I'm surprised to hear you describe those odds as undesirable. 50% chance of a positive interaction is an order of magnitude higher than I would have estimated. Even if there's only a 5% chance of a positive interaction, parent poster's advice is still worth it. If you are respectful other other people, those negative interactions will be short and not too bad for either party. The upshot of find love and a lifelong partner more than offsets those short negative interactions that you have to wade through.
- lightspot21 5y agoThis would be true if the world were not as highly interconnected as it is. Nobody wants to risk this "failure" being broadcasted and possibly following them through virality. People today are not allowed to "fail safely" so to speak. Not without social penalties even outside their immediate social circle.
- baobabKoodaa 5y agoI know what you mean. The world was definitely different years ago when I met my wife. If I was single today, I don't know if I would take the same risks that I took 10 years ago. That said, I still think those are risks worth taking (even if I myself wouldn't have the balls to take them). If you go in with good intentions and treat people with respect, what's the worst that can happen? I don't think there's a lot of viral potential for a video where a socially awkward guy tries to talk to a woman and walks off after being rejected.