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You shouldn’t save money over looking after your mental health. Your own space as an adult is important.

by chrisseaton 5y ago

anonnyj 5y ago
Constantly splurging on instant gratifications does the opposite of help one's mental health.
- Quikinterp 5y ago
  Seems like he was referring to moving out and spending money on rent, from what I can gather
- deleted 5y ago
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- void_mint 5y ago
  Who's talking about constantly splurging?
- yann2 5y ago
  Its the US. Lots of parents have mental health issues. Nothing good happens to kids who stick around in unhealthy environments. Which is to say the path that works depends a lot on the type of people you are around.
- drdeadringer 5y ago
  Not everyone's parents are good role models [define "good" as you wish], or actually want you there, &c.
kiba 5y ago
That should be determined on an individual basis and living situation. Not everybody has parents that they can tolerate.
pessimizer 5y ago
People have usually lived with/near their extended families for most of their lives for thousands of years, and currently in most cultures. It isn't a proof or cause of mental illness. It's a failure of reproduction of the middle class, though. When you're born rich, it's easy to die rich (without being adventurously stupid), when you're born poor, it's effortless to die poor. The middle-class is the class that has to rebuild every generation. We've allowed so much corruption and rent-seeking that it's not happening anymore.
hgs3 5y ago
Moving out caused my mental health to deteriorate. The meaninglessness of living alone and wasting my life working for Big Corp made me suicidal. I was hospitalized in a psych ward for a week. I tried half a dozen antidepressants. Nothing helped. Now I've moved back with my parents and I'm trying to turn my own, meaningful (to me) projects into a business. I don't know if things will work out financially, but I already feel much better than I did. Regardless, I don't believe I'll ever feel the way I once did about this world.
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- sjg007 5y ago
  You are not alone and this is not unusual. I don't think the Western world has quite figured out how to transition people to a successful adulthood. Or if that is something we are supposed to do cold turkey. It takes a village right? My mental health deteriorated too. Looking back I should have built a support network and gone to therapy.. a lot of therapy. This all hit me at the end of college and in grad school. So I was broke too. I didn't really have family to fall back on either, I was lonely and felt alone. I'm still working on it, despite marriage/kids etc... I actually wish I had capitalized on my alone time in retrospect. Hence therapy! >Regardless, I don't believe I'll ever feel the way I once did about this world. Do you want to feel that way? What you have now is perspective and you know more about yourself.
  - chrisseaton 5y ago
    > I don't think the Western world has quite figured out how to transition people to a successful adulthood. That's what college is for.
    - sjg007 5y ago
      Yes and no. In my comment I said I went to college and grad school. Maybe we need to take classes on the psychology of being an adult or something.
    - 5y ago
megohere 5y ago
Now, this is a real boomer take. The issue isn't that young people don't want to move into their own place. It's that they literally can't without ruining themselves. For me, moving out of my parents place would mean moving to a tiny shithole that costs over 800CAD and is situated in the worst neighborhood of my city. It would be worse for my mental health (which is already hampered because I find modern cities unbearable) but also an idiotic financial decision. Point is, all I want is to move away and live in solitude and independence but I think the government would probably find me even if I moved into a cabin in the woods in Yukon.
CozyBearNotSoy 5y ago
If I'm working so much at such high levels of stress that my highest priority outside of work is sleep then the personal space issue becomes moot.

You shouldn’t save money over looking after your mental health. Your own space as an adult is important.

anonnyj 5y ago

Constantly splurging on instant gratifications does the opposite of help one's mental health.

Quikinterp 5y ago
Seems like he was referring to moving out and spending money on rent, from what I can gather
deleted 5y ago
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void_mint 5y ago
Who's talking about constantly splurging?
yann2 5y ago
Its the US. Lots of parents have mental health issues. Nothing good happens to kids who stick around in unhealthy environments. Which is to say the path that works depends a lot on the type of people you are around.
drdeadringer 5y ago
Not everyone's parents are good role models [define "good" as you wish], or actually want you there, &c.

kiba 5y ago

That should be determined on an individual basis and living situation. Not everybody has parents that they can tolerate.

pessimizer 5y ago

People have usually lived with/near their extended families for most of their lives for thousands of years, and currently in most cultures. It isn't a proof or cause of mental illness. It's a failure of reproduction of the middle class, though. When you're born rich, it's easy to die rich (without being adventurously stupid), when you're born poor, it's effortless to die poor. The middle-class is the class that has to rebuild every generation. We've allowed so much corruption and rent-seeking that it's not happening anymore.

hgs3 5y ago

Moving out caused my mental health to deteriorate. The meaninglessness of living alone and wasting my life working for Big Corp made me suicidal. I was hospitalized in a psych ward for a week. I tried half a dozen antidepressants. Nothing helped. Now I've moved back with my parents and I'm trying to turn my own, meaningful (to me) projects into a business. I don't know if things will work out financially, but I already feel much better than I did. Regardless, I don't believe I'll ever feel the way I once did about this world.

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sjg007 5y ago
You are not alone and this is not unusual. I don't think the Western world has quite figured out how to transition people to a successful adulthood. Or if that is something we are supposed to do cold turkey. It takes a village right? My mental health deteriorated too. Looking back I should have built a support network and gone to therapy.. a lot of therapy. This all hit me at the end of college and in grad school. So I was broke too. I didn't really have family to fall back on either, I was lonely and felt alone. I'm still working on it, despite marriage/kids etc... I actually wish I had capitalized on my alone time in retrospect. Hence therapy! >Regardless, I don't believe I'll ever feel the way I once did about this world. Do you want to feel that way? What you have now is perspective and you know more about yourself.
- chrisseaton 5y ago
  > I don't think the Western world has quite figured out how to transition people to a successful adulthood. That's what college is for.
  - sjg007 5y ago
    Yes and no. In my comment I said I went to college and grad school. Maybe we need to take classes on the psychology of being an adult or something.
  - 5y ago

megohere 5y ago

Now, this is a real boomer take. The issue isn't that young people don't want to move into their own place. It's that they literally can't without ruining themselves. For me, moving out of my parents place would mean moving to a tiny shithole that costs over 800CAD and is situated in the worst neighborhood of my city. It would be worse for my mental health (which is already hampered because I find modern cities unbearable) but also an idiotic financial decision. Point is, all I want is to move away and live in solitude and independence but I think the government would probably find me even if I moved into a cabin in the woods in Yukon.

CozyBearNotSoy 5y ago

If I'm working so much at such high levels of stress that my highest priority outside of work is sleep then the personal space issue becomes moot.