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From another comment > 1. Lose weight and get fit, everything else depends on this. I'm going to disagree here. I can speak from experience, and you'll find p
by ragingrobot 5y ago
From another comment
> 1. Lose weight and get fit, everything else depends on this.
I'm going to disagree here. I can speak from experience, and you'll find plenty via a search that getting fit may even lead to more problems if done alone.
That's if OP has esteem issues. Weight loss was suggested and nothing was mentioned in OP about weight issues.
So, OP if either apply to you, read on, if not, safely ignore.
While many of us fat kids (or formerly fat kid/adult) tie our self esteem to our being unfit, the fact is once someone gets fit that poor self esteem does not get magically fixed like a lot of us think it will. I know I did. I was 300lbs, dropped to 160 and started thinking "why am I not happier, I did all this work and still no social life?"
I dare say for myself and others that the magical non fix made things worse.
IMHO working on that poor self esteem is what everything else depends on. Then other things will start getting easier.
That's not to say that you can't work on both at the same time, but go for self esteem first.
- atmosx 5y agoThe "wellness industry" is predicated on the assumption that if something happens to your health, is your fault because you could have done ABC which is total crap. Of course losing weight and being fit is better than being overweight and unfit, but I'd rather hang-out with an overweight, unfit friend who I can discuss topics of interest and have a good time, rather than being with someone who's "fit" :-)
- ragingrobot 5y agoThat's because the "wellness industry" is solely focused on physical health. Physical health is the key to life. Which is utter crap. By now it should be apparent that we have a real big mental health problem in this society, and needs to be addressed. Instead they tell us "be fit and you'll be happy."