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> "You're rude" vs "I feel like what you said to me was rude" will elicit different responses No it won't. They both mean exactly the same thing. If anything
by jimbokun 5y ago
> "You're rude" vs "I feel like what you said to me was rude" will elicit different responses
No it won't. They both mean exactly the same thing.
If anything, the second one will elicit a more hostile response, as the person being addressed will believe you are trying to manipulate them by obfuscating your language.
- errantmind 5y agoWhile I agree with your overall point, there is a middle third option that doesn't involve labeling someone as rude. Drop the "I feel" and just say "what you said was rude". Being labeled often requires a defensive response as it has a sense of permanence associated with it. Temporally, it is different from describing an action as rude.
- dwaltrip 5y ago“I am X” vs “I am feeling X” are very different statements. The first leans more toward describing to attribute as permanent, while the second is more explicit that it is a temporary state.
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