My personal objection is that it purposely confuses things. It's worded in a way that connects declining with not being a team player. Obviously that's an inte

My personal objection is that it purposely confuses things. It's worded in a way that connects declining with not being a team player. Obviously that's an intentional construction and to some people it makes perfect sense. It also is emotionally manipulative because it intentionally seeks to manipulate the receivers emotional state so that they comply. Some people will comply to resolve that discomfort. The inherent power imbalance distorts the situation. It also confuses the language of personal relationships (affective statements) with the workplace. To me, this is in the same realm as getting employees to view the workplace as a family. Again it hijacks the our relationship cognition centers in order to engage in exploitation. Declining in a regular relationship has regular relationship consequences. Declining this kind of statement from a boss has livelihood consequences. The solution in the workplace? Just say it plainly. Bringing NVC into the workplace is fertile ground for emotional manipulation.