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I am a natural contrarian, have built multiple libraries[1][2] that go directly against the grain of most web development today and my companies catch phrase is

I am a natural contrarian, have built multiple libraries[1][2] that go directly against the grain of most web development today and my companies catch phrase is "We find hot new industry trends & then do the opposite of that..." So I am sympathetic to the article. However, as with all things, there is an aristotelian mean here: it is OK and in fact virtuous to attempt to conform to some extent with those around you. Humans are social animals, and going against the grain full bore at all times can wear you out, lose you friends and influence, and is often ineffective for affecting change. You are often better off going with the grain to some extent and then using some jujitsu to push your contrarian ideas. To pick a practical example at random: mention your contrarian libraries in a defense of conformity. [1] - https://intercooler.js https://intercooler.js [2] - https://htmx.org https://htmx.org

doctor_eval 5y ago
I agree with you, but I think the problem is more about the conflation in some people’s minds of conformity vs correctness. It’s fine to conform as long as doing so is close to optimal, or the cost of conforming to a non optimal solution is low. It works the other way too: sometimes conforming is simply cheaper than optimal, due to existing processes etc. I often get credit for being right more often than not, but actually I just try to be a disciplined thinker and to understand the problem well enough to be able to make informed decisions. But I also get called a troublemaker for the same reason. Drives me nuts. Isn’t trying to find the right answer actually the point?
- pm90 5y ago
  When egos get involved it’s not the right answer that counts but the answer that makes one look good. People might say they care about data and facts but what they really care for is data that reinforces their ideas
  - AstralStorm 5y ago
    Depends on a person. Many will change their views if it opportunistically benefits them. Hypocrisy is rule rather than exception. Even more people in power are not slaves to PR, just use it where needed. Conformity and publicity are only a leaky barrier.
- SamPatt 5y ago
  Trying to find the right answer often isn't the point. Social forces often dominant decision making.
  - AstralStorm 5y ago
    Social forces are not like natural forces, they're a result of an aggregate of many decisions, especially historical ones, of powerful people. One does not have to bend to that, if they have enough power. (Can even defy laws, sometimes, which are decisions codified.) That's how society changed in the past and changes today. Yes, masses can also wield power to defy social order.
- dasyatidprime 5y ago
  It's true, but worse is also better; of reasonable answers, the “right” one is often the one that will be popular enough for people to rearrange the world (sometimes retroactively) to make it right.
- AstralStorm 5y ago
  The critical part is discerning truthiness from truth. Usually a truthy sounding statement will have a set of heavy underlying assumptions. Typical examples include ideologies and economics. There's also a class of statements that cannot be reasonably verified, mostly pertaining to society and social organization. There, truth really does not exist unless someone (or nature) runs an experiment. Most ways of organizing society are valid, though some are mean/evil. Then again, some other ways are clearly hypocritical, illogical or demonstrably highly inefficient.
systemvoltage 5y ago
It is one thing to have a choice. The society demands that we conform. That just makes me want to not conform even more.
- recursivedoubts 5y ago
  my recommendation is to take that non-conformance out to a second or third order first order non-conformance may be tolerable depending on your personality, but second order or third order non-conformance can be immensely enjoyable and the people who get it will get it
matkoniecz 5y ago
https://intercooler.js/ https://intercooler.js/ is down. Curiously, trying to verify on "is down for everyone or just me" tools appears to break them.
- recursivedoubts 5y ago
  oops: https://intercoolerjs.org https://intercoolerjs.org

doctor_eval 5y ago

I agree with you, but I think the problem is more about the conflation in some people’s minds of conformity vs correctness. It’s fine to conform as long as doing so is close to optimal, or the cost of conforming to a non optimal solution is low. It works the other way too: sometimes conforming is simply cheaper than optimal, due to existing processes etc. I often get credit for being right more often than not, but actually I just try to be a disciplined thinker and to understand the problem well enough to be able to make informed decisions. But I also get called a troublemaker for the same reason. Drives me nuts. Isn’t trying to find the right answer actually the point?

pm90 5y ago
When egos get involved it’s not the right answer that counts but the answer that makes one look good. People might say they care about data and facts but what they really care for is data that reinforces their ideas
- AstralStorm 5y ago
  Depends on a person. Many will change their views if it opportunistically benefits them. Hypocrisy is rule rather than exception. Even more people in power are not slaves to PR, just use it where needed. Conformity and publicity are only a leaky barrier.
SamPatt 5y ago
Trying to find the right answer often isn't the point. Social forces often dominant decision making.
- AstralStorm 5y ago
  Social forces are not like natural forces, they're a result of an aggregate of many decisions, especially historical ones, of powerful people. One does not have to bend to that, if they have enough power. (Can even defy laws, sometimes, which are decisions codified.) That's how society changed in the past and changes today. Yes, masses can also wield power to defy social order.
dasyatidprime 5y ago
It's true, but worse is also better; of reasonable answers, the “right” one is often the one that will be popular enough for people to rearrange the world (sometimes retroactively) to make it right.
AstralStorm 5y ago
The critical part is discerning truthiness from truth. Usually a truthy sounding statement will have a set of heavy underlying assumptions. Typical examples include ideologies and economics. There's also a class of statements that cannot be reasonably verified, mostly pertaining to society and social organization. There, truth really does not exist unless someone (or nature) runs an experiment. Most ways of organizing society are valid, though some are mean/evil. Then again, some other ways are clearly hypocritical, illogical or demonstrably highly inefficient.

systemvoltage 5y ago

It is one thing to have a choice. The society demands that we conform. That just makes me want to not conform even more.

recursivedoubts 5y ago
my recommendation is to take that non-conformance out to a second or third order first order non-conformance may be tolerable depending on your personality, but second order or third order non-conformance can be immensely enjoyable and the people who get it will get it

matkoniecz 5y ago

https://intercooler.js/ https://intercooler.js/ is down. Curiously, trying to verify on "is down for everyone or just me" tools appears to break them.

recursivedoubts 5y ago
oops: https://intercoolerjs.org https://intercoolerjs.org