First, thank you for sharing how you're feeling - in a lot of ways, this is one of the hardest steps to take, because it acknowledges a reality that one might p

First, thank you for sharing how you're feeling - in a lot of ways, this is one of the hardest steps to take, because it acknowledges a reality that one might prefer not to acknowledge, and I respect the hell out of you for being willing to take this step. Second, the first and best piece of advice I can give is: find and talk to a therapist (assuming you haven't already). It was probably the best decision I made when I was in a similar place to the one you've described, and the perspective shift I internalized as a result of those sessions has continued to benefit me in the subsequent years, in good times and bad. Third, I wholeheartedly echo what many other commenters have said RE: Tinder and social media more generally - they're not going to help you get through this and in fact are probably making things worse, as you've already observed. These sites won't do anything more than reflect back to you what you're already feeling, for good or ill. Beyond that, into some "squishier" observations and suggestions - - The problems you describe are ones that I've only come to appreciate the significance of as I've aged; they would have sounded superfluous or insignificant to me as a teenager, maybe, but I know better now. You're right to take your feelings seriously! - Rather a shot in the dark here, but: is there something you've wanted out of your own life, or some part of who you feel you might be, that you've ignored or suppressed or compartmentalized away because you think it's "not who you are" or something like that? - You are absolutely right to feel that you are not alone in dealing with these issues! - There is no "normal," and there's nothing and nobody that you are "supposed to be." This is not to say that our culture and society has not presented you with images of a particular set of ideals for literally your entire life, to the point where just figuring out what to start questioning is a years-long project - but it's true all the same. - This, too, shall pass.