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How does a support rep being friendly and casual lead to a disaster? Or are the disasters you are referring to purely caused by the customer acting entitled and

How does a support rep being friendly and casual lead to a disaster? Or are the disasters you are referring to purely caused by the customer acting entitled and screaming because they got offended that someone was trying to be nice to them? It's more than likely some dude that is just starting their career that has almost no training that is trying to the best of their ability to express empathy, provide a workaround, and make the customer happy. He doesn't control what gets fixed. Why do business interactions need to be devoid of social niceties? It's some software company, not a morgue.

tux3 5y ago
Right. There's definitely a time and place to be casual. As a support person, you're your customer's 911 dispatcher. Please don't make light of their issues. People want to be treated seriously when they're having a problem. You can't tell people they're entitled for disliking how you're treating them in a serious situation, and call it empathy in the next breath.
- bostonsre 5y ago
  Right, but again, it's not 911, it's a software company. The user's company is not gonna go bankrupt, they can still use the application. It is a front line support rep, it is the same as some guy at McDonald's. Yes, I think people are entitled when they feel they have a right to be mean or difficult to some person who is just trying to do their job and is making a plausible attempt to be nice to you. You can't read that workers mind, they said one word that can be plausibly used in either circumstance. That word expresses anguish that their customer is having trouble. That is empathy if it was used sincerely. It is not the south park episode with the cable company workers.
  - hluska 5y ago
    This thread has really messed with my feelings on the tech industry. When did we all become unfeeling automatons? Did I miss that memo?? There’s nothing wrong with expressing anguish. And I happily fire customers who have a problem with that. Life is too short to deal with that level of entitlement.
    - prower 5y ago
      I've learned that good intentions are filtered differently when the other party is already angry. If my customer is having a problem, I can try being friendly after the communication is already ongoing, problem has been aknowledged, and it is on his way to be fixed. Ending in a friendly tone is a big plus. Starting with it, not at all. On the other hand, as a customer, having to deal with you at all is already stressful enough, i'm paying you and still losing time over your screw-ups, and still you start with an "ooof". It would give me a feeling of "not only i'm losing time, i'm also being joked on". Being professional and gradually friendly is simply the most secure way to operate, because every person that contacts you for a problem, big or small, doesn't want to contact you to begin with. Don't "ooof" me please.
      - freedomben 5y ago
        It seems like the disconnect here is that the angry people are viewing this one person's response as representative of the entire company and as though it was filtered through a PR rep, while the more understanding people are viewing this person a person speaking for themselves, not necessarily the whole company. The person could have just copy pasted the canned response with no help and it sounds like a lot of people would have been happier with that. At a minimum, they wouldn't be hating on the customer support rep personally.
        bostonsre 5y ago
        Yea, that sounds about right. I think I recall being a support rep for trading software in college and I've interacted with those front line workers for a long time now so I have a lot of empathy for them. They are just people trying to do their job and I don't recall a single support rep that wasn't just trying to do their job well. People are complicated and socializing is hard, especially when it's not in person. What we do is almost always not life and death. We shuffle bits around between computers, we shouldn't take ourselves so seriously. There is no reason people can't be nice to each other in these interactions.
        5y ago
- hluska 5y ago
  Why are you twisting my words to this extent? My advice was simply ‘be yourself’ and you’ve bastardized that into making light of their issues. I don’t make light of people’s issues - that’s crap. But I’m going to be kind because that’s who I am.
tw04 5y ago
I guess I completely disagree with your sentiment that somehow being casual means you're being friendly. Those are two completely unrelated actions. You can be casual and a jerk. You can be friendly and professional. Someone telling me "oof" when my business is offline and losing money (or insert major issue you've caused me) isn't a social nicety, it's something I would expect a buddy to say if I told him I lost money playing poker.

tux3 5y ago

Right. There's definitely a time and place to be casual. As a support person, you're your customer's 911 dispatcher. Please don't make light of their issues. People want to be treated seriously when they're having a problem. You can't tell people they're entitled for disliking how you're treating them in a serious situation, and call it empathy in the next breath.

bostonsre 5y ago
Right, but again, it's not 911, it's a software company. The user's company is not gonna go bankrupt, they can still use the application. It is a front line support rep, it is the same as some guy at McDonald's. Yes, I think people are entitled when they feel they have a right to be mean or difficult to some person who is just trying to do their job and is making a plausible attempt to be nice to you. You can't read that workers mind, they said one word that can be plausibly used in either circumstance. That word expresses anguish that their customer is having trouble. That is empathy if it was used sincerely. It is not the south park episode with the cable company workers.
- hluska 5y ago
  This thread has really messed with my feelings on the tech industry. When did we all become unfeeling automatons? Did I miss that memo?? There’s nothing wrong with expressing anguish. And I happily fire customers who have a problem with that. Life is too short to deal with that level of entitlement.
  - prower 5y ago
    I've learned that good intentions are filtered differently when the other party is already angry. If my customer is having a problem, I can try being friendly after the communication is already ongoing, problem has been aknowledged, and it is on his way to be fixed. Ending in a friendly tone is a big plus. Starting with it, not at all. On the other hand, as a customer, having to deal with you at all is already stressful enough, i'm paying you and still losing time over your screw-ups, and still you start with an "ooof". It would give me a feeling of "not only i'm losing time, i'm also being joked on". Being professional and gradually friendly is simply the most secure way to operate, because every person that contacts you for a problem, big or small, doesn't want to contact you to begin with. Don't "ooof" me please.
    - freedomben 5y ago
      It seems like the disconnect here is that the angry people are viewing this one person's response as representative of the entire company and as though it was filtered through a PR rep, while the more understanding people are viewing this person a person speaking for themselves, not necessarily the whole company. The person could have just copy pasted the canned response with no help and it sounds like a lot of people would have been happier with that. At a minimum, they wouldn't be hating on the customer support rep personally.
      - bostonsre 5y ago
        Yea, that sounds about right. I think I recall being a support rep for trading software in college and I've interacted with those front line workers for a long time now so I have a lot of empathy for them. They are just people trying to do their job and I don't recall a single support rep that wasn't just trying to do their job well. People are complicated and socializing is hard, especially when it's not in person. What we do is almost always not life and death. We shuffle bits around between computers, we shouldn't take ourselves so seriously. There is no reason people can't be nice to each other in these interactions.
        5y ago
hluska 5y ago
Why are you twisting my words to this extent? My advice was simply ‘be yourself’ and you’ve bastardized that into making light of their issues. I don’t make light of people’s issues - that’s crap. But I’m going to be kind because that’s who I am.

tw04 5y ago

I guess I completely disagree with your sentiment that somehow being casual means you're being friendly. Those are two completely unrelated actions. You can be casual and a jerk. You can be friendly and professional. Someone telling me "oof" when my business is offline and losing money (or insert major issue you've caused me) isn't a social nicety, it's something I would expect a buddy to say if I told him I lost money playing poker.