I think you’ll be happier, and possibly more charitable, if you overtly propose collaboration or quid pro quo up front with the people you tacitly hope will rec

I think you’ll be happier, and possibly more charitable, if you overtly propose collaboration or quid pro quo up front with the people you tacitly hope will reciprocate, and do the giving in situations where you honestly do not expect or want reciprocation. In both situations you’re communicating more clearly what you are doing and wanting, which helps.