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I'm struggling with the idea of hybrid WFH. It still means that I need to live near the office. Instead of a cheaper, quieter place far away from cities. Besi
by Raed667 5y ago
I'm struggling with the idea of hybrid WFH.
It still means that I need to live near the office. Instead of a cheaper, quieter place far away from cities.
Besides making middle-management happy, I'm not sure what is the benefit of having one required day per week at the office.
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- marcinzm 5y agoI've found that it's much harder to form social bonds, especially cross-team, when working remotely and never seeing people in person. Socializing via Zoom is not the same. The lack of lunch and hallway conversation hurts a lot without even getting into the outside of work socializing. That in turn leads to minor issues exploding because no one has a sense of empathy built for anyone else.
- teucris 5y agoCame to make a comment like this. Some jobs are great to do entirely remotely and forcing workers in those roles to come into an office is completely outdated bullshit. But there are tons of jobs that require trust and collaboration. For those workers, in-person relationship building is a fundamental part of the job. We need to be clearer in our job titles and descriptions about that, so that there is less conflict in expectations of remote work.
- xur17 5y agoI'm guessing the company size (~15) has a lot to do with it, but the 100% remote startup I am at has had a lot of success with onsites 2-3x / year.
- matsemann 5y agoAgreed. I didn't mind for the first part of the pandemic, as I knew everyone on my team and we just kept shooting the shit on chat or video. But then I switched jobs, and last week was actually the first time I met most of them. I've found it much harder to build the same rapport.
- irrational 5y agoI’ve worked at the same company for nearly 20 years. I’ve had precisely 0 lunch and hallway conversations in all of those years. Lunch time is when I go work out. If I’m not working out, I’m sitting at my my desk working. Socializing is for non-work hours. However, I’ve learned a lot more about coworkers (some of whom I’ve worked with for more than 10 years) during the pandemic from talking at the beginning of zoom calls waiting for everyone to show up.
- aetherson 5y agoYou are not the modal employee.
- refurb 5y agoYou sound like a fun person to work with!
- parafactual 5y agoDoes it bother you if someone doesn't socialize at work? I don't understand why it would.
- refurb 5y agoIf someone can make it 20 years with zero hallway conversations I assume they aren’t very pleasant to be around. I mean, if I asked OP if they had a nice weekend, what would happen? Would I be ignored? Just a grunt in reply? Or a “fine” and that’s it?
- SauciestGNU 5y agoI assumed they were referring to the spontaneous work-related hallway chats that middle managers and executives claim are so important. I'm not OP, but I relate, and while I'm not big on small talk I'll engage in it because I respect my colleagues and I don't want to snub them.
- parafactual 5y ago
- gremlinsinc 5y agoWhy not just do like a 3-4 day retreat to "bond" every 3-4 months? Or even monthly have maybe a 2-3 day mini-retreat work a day or two on-site and do some after-work bonding for those who are staying in hotels, etc... I mean if it's just about bonding. I had pretty good bonding with an agency I worked with and we'd do once a year retreats and it was really nice to hang out with the team, then go back home and hang out in slack.
- ghaff 5y agoYes. And I's argue that some semi-structured time to exchange ideas, come up with ideas, "bond," etc. with everyone on some scale of team and even guests from other teams is probably better than bump into you conversations that often aren't going to happen with people on other floors, in other offices, and even on different continents.
- chillel 5y agobecause people have families, and parents can't just bounce on their children?
- kevinmchugh 5y agoThe parents I know have their lives greatly complicated by commutes and having to ensure childcare while they're in transit to or from the office.
- techsupporter 5y agoAs a parent, a five-day-per-week commute has many more opportunities for something to go wrong than an off-site I know about a month in advance that lasts for three nights. Every single day, lots of things have to go right: dropping off has to be at a defined time (whether school or daycare, most activities have a predetermined start time unless the kid is very young, which mine isn't any more), then I have to get to work from the daycare, then I have to hope that nothing blows up during the day requiring me to stay longer, then I have to hope nothing blows up on the trip to daycare, and so on. I'm very fortunate that daycare is on a transit path for me because my family doesn't drive and transit around here is usually more reliable than driving. Working from home for the last 15 months has been a godsend. I don't have to deal with any of those oddities. My spouse and I have traded off who takes a few days off every few weeks or so to be "on vacation" with the kid, or we sync up and take days off together to just veg at home as a family. If you tell me I can skip the bullshit commute and only have to plan child care around a retreat that is booked a month, or even a couple of weeks!, in advance, I will gladly take that trade. Even if it's a "bring your spouse" kind of thing, I can get a set of grandparents to train or fly in for that time (or even go to them).
- hellbannedguy 5y agoYes it's harder for most people to form bonds online. I have worked with people whom only have friends, and social time, through an office setting. I've worked with people who can't wait to get away from their family by going to work. My dad couldn't wait until monday. I was that guy that socialized, and made friends through work. I'm still that guy kinda? The hour grooming, and the two hour commute is making me think I should reach out to people whom I come in contact locally. That said, some people don't need the social experience going to an office provides. They have full lives, and don't need to show up to the charade. If they are good employees, why force them back? Smart employers will let them work from home.
- notacoward 5y agoI think that occasional in-person contact is important to avoid the "erosion of trust" that I've seen occur over and over again working full-time remote at multiple companies for most of a decade before COVID. Even famously all-remote teams have relied on periodic conferences and summits to maintain that contact. It works. It's why I never balked at travel requirements - as often as monthly - during those remote jobs. The key is to recognize that the in-person contact is part of the mix to enhance empathy/connectedness and for those few situations where a multi-way high-bandwidth conversation is necessary. Planning sessions are an example IMO. Understanding how people really feel about priorities etc. is important, but often involves interpreting facial expressions and body language that aren't captured (or conveyed well) on video. Making it a part of your every day team work environment puts you into an entirely different and no longer remote-friendly milieu.
- okaram 5y agoBut you don't need to live as close, right? A one hour commute sounds like hell, but once a week? Meh. I work from home, and my team is distributed, so we work fine online, but there are a few times when we say 'we'll have that conversation over a beer when we meet in person'.
- xkqd 5y agoI’ve always held a belief that a lot of America’s social and economic inequalities are fueled by the consolidation of good, high paying jobs around a few major cities. I’d get behind any party that tries to tackle this by incentivizing the distribution of these jobs across America. If cheaper, quieter lifestyles result from this, all the better.
- dcolkitt 5y agoAt the very least, crowding the most intelligent and ambitious people into the country’s lowest fertility metro (the Bay Area) certainly seems like not a good idea from an inter-generational perspective.
- lolinder 5y agoIt seems like you might be mixing up cause and effect. I'd assume that the Bay area is the country's lowest fertility Metro precisely because it's filled with ambitious people.
- mensetmanusman 5y agoThe entire west is not having children, it’s not just the Bay Area.
- aksss 5y agoNearly the entire developed world after their growth booms. China will get there too. It’s a common enough pattern for wealthy countries worldwide.
- muyuu 5y agoChina has been in (artificially) in demographic decline for a while most of the country remains dirt poor. There is no such cultural determinism. Many countries won't stop having children as their economy grows, in fact the opposite is happening in many places around the world.
- pavel_lishin 5y agoA lot of meetings are much easier to have in person. Socializing, as other people pointed out, is also much easier in person.
- prirun 5y agoA lot of meetings are also a complete waste of many people's time.
- contravariant 5y agoThough if there's anything the past few months have demonstrated, online meetings have that same problem.
- brewdad 5y agoThe solution is fewer, more effective, meetings not forcing people back to face-to-face meetings that should have been an email.
- magicalhippo 5y agoWhenever I get a meeting I don't understand why I was invited to, I just ask whoever invited me, or my boss if customer did, what my purpose is in the meeting. Almost always I can avoid the full meeting with the understanding that they can call me in if they need my expertise. When that happens it's typically just a couple of questions and I can go back. Sure some weeks can get a bit busy with meetings if we have a lot of projects going on, but I'm almost never in a meeting where I feel I'm wasting time.
- sleepybrett 5y agoThis is something great about video conferencing. Forced to attend a meeting that has no bearing on your work. If you are there in person, banging away on your keyboard the whole time in the corner is considered rude. On video conferencing you can just mute yourself, turn down the volume and just keep your ears perked for your name and keep working.
- wernercd 5y agoSocial bonds, Office chat, meetings around a table, etc. There are so many things you can't get over a zoom call that not having a hybrid model is what I won't understand. You can have the best of both worlds and if that means that there are some limits on where you can live? I saw someone say that a lot of what makes WFH successful currently are the bonds that we had built while working together... and that as time goes on, those bonds will loosen as new people come in that don't have those experiences and those hallway talk. I think I agree with that... but it remains to be seen how things will work going forward. I see most companies going to a hybrid model. I see a large number of turnover at places that don't offer hybrid. My current place of employement seems to be winding up towards hybrid and I have a long commute (had before covid). I'd be unhappy with 5 days meat in seat. I'll be very happy if I only have to be there 2 days a week. Still happy with only 3. Sad with 4. I'd probably hunt for a new job with 5. Maybe 4.
- makeitdouble 5y agoOn not wanting the hybrid model, while where you live is an aspect, how you organize is another. For instance it’s a big difference if you can send and take your kids from school yourself 5 days a week or if for one or two days you need to find someone to contract just for that. Same for having one or two cars, needing a laptop or not, etc. There are a lot of big and small effects on having to commute one/two days or 0.
- wernercd 5y agoAbsolutely - it's a complicated equation and all things determine. From personality (some love home, some love office) to child care to technology (laptop, internet cost at home, speed) to all what you mentioned and a hundred more points. I think, personally, most will want hybrid - to get the best of both worlds - and it's simply a matter of finding the right personal and corporate balance (if possible). We'll see how long term the effects of COVID are. We might see WFH become mainstream... we might see a massive pushback to go back to the Old Normal. I think successful companies will find the middle to keep their talent.
- 2muchcoffeeman 5y agoI find in person meetings more effective. I’d rather meet once a week or 2 and get all the big meetings done then go away to code, than have Zoom meetings every single day. I predict that in all the full time WFH companies, some small group will start having in person meets once every X. Or some other startup will innovate past an incumbent by having a hybrid model. Then hybrid will be the next “new” thing.
- rhacker 5y agoZoom is the new power point. Has anyone noticed we've replaced the concept of "the thing that is annoying about meetings is power point" to just blaming zoom. I don't even think we have a point to make, it's just like a thing we say... like oh god another power point meeting, oh god another zoom call. I think the real thing is "oh god another thing I have to do I don't want to" - but we're afraid to say it.
- BTCOG 5y agoI guess I should be so fortunate that I've been working from home since the end of February 2020 and that all we use is Microsoft Teams for audio-only calls. We have never done video calls and I cannot imagine why anyone would stand for that shit.
- riffraff 5y agoWell, for one you can just nod along while other people speak, or shake your head. Video just increases the communication bandwidth a bit. You can also quickly switch to screen sharing some chart and discuss it. Or you can look at a backlog, or some bit of code, or a mockup. I've been remote for 12 years, in my experience video calls are strictly better than audio only, but of course it's fine if someone can't join with video. It's not video that makes meetings bad, it's people.
- 2muchcoffeeman 5y agoOh, I’m not afraid to say I hate teleconferencing. And I assure you I wasn’t imagining the average of 3-4 hours of online meetings every single day that was compressed to 1-2 days every 2 weeks once we started meeting in the office again.
- shagie 5y agoWith the "everyone remote" of 2020, one of the things that spooked a lot of companies is the employees adding to additional complications by living in states (or sometimes countries) that have different labor laws, taxes, and such without telling the company. This resulted in things where they suddenly found out that they need to pay taxes in four states (and Canada - unless they get that employee to leave within 3 weeks... and firing them is an option). The three day hybrid may also be something to discourage one employee trying to hold down two remote jobs (on Reddit, this is a not uncommon question and sometimes a really suspicious coworker who suddenly can't VPN or connect to slack for a day or two each week). The hybrid model keeps a number of problems that the company would otherwise have to think about and enforce non-issues.
- LAC-Tech 5y ago> With the "everyone remote" of 2020, one of the things that spooked a lot of companies is the employees adding to additional complications by living in states (or sometimes countries) that have different labor laws, taxes, and such without telling the company. I've side-stepped this issue by being self-employed. Then it becomes as simple as - you keep paying me and I keep working.
- hutzlibu 5y agoWell, I don't know how this works in the US, but in germany when you are self-employed, but basically only work for one company - it would be declared a fake selfemployed situation, with lots of legal and tax complications, basically forcing the company to employ you regulary. (to counter companies pushing their workers to be self employed, to avoid taxes, healthcare costs, etc. But I am not convinced if the result is beneficial to the workers)
- Raed667 5y agoIn France as well. Also if you're a contractor you can't be working for the same company/role more than 3 years for the same reason.
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- jjav 5y ago> I'm struggling with the idea of hybrid WFH. I'd be ok with up to a max of one day a week in the office. That doesn't restrict location too much. Only one day a week, I'm willing to put up with a multi-hour commute. Anything more than one day, I don't think so.
- theshrike79 5y agoDepends on the hybrid model. If it's "3 days every week at the office", then you need to live close by. If it's "two days every month", you can just stay at a hotel for that time with the money you saved from commuting - maybe even bring the whole family =)