Keep in mind that people evolved in a completely different environment. First of all, it was more violent. Go around and chat up 5K women in the stone age, see

Keep in mind that people evolved in a completely different environment. First of all, it was more violent. Go around and chat up 5K women in the stone age, see if you learn something about spear tips. In the modern world I also chatted up a lot of women and it never turned violent. Second, you couldn't even find 5K women back then. People lived in little tribes that weren't nearly as dense as a modern city, and people tended to not meet people that they didn't meet a lot. You don't want to get stabbed, and also you don't want to be an outcast within your tribe, because once one woman notices you got no game, she'll tell the rest of your tribe. So the effect of this is we're all too shy for modern dating. The effective strategy these days is like you say, go and roll the dice over and over.