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I wouldn't call this abuse either but there is a huge huge gulf between "that was the best time of my life" and "this is the best time of your life. It's at be

I wouldn't call this abuse either but there is a huge huge gulf between "that was the best time of my life" and "this is the best time of your life. It's at best just extremely rude to tell someone about their own life and how they should feel about it.

cj 5y ago
> It's at best just extremely rude to tell someone about their own life and how they should feel about it. I have to disagree. My grandparents often have great perspectives on life situations that they readily share when relevant to the people around them. No one sees it as rude, and if they do, it’s usually because the advice hits a little too close to home. Like “when I went through my divorce…”
- dredmorbius 5y ago
  Sharing insight and/or experience != telling someone how to feel about something. The truly insightful manage to prompt you to think without explicitly telling you to do so. (And are sometimes wrong. People can in fact be living in a truly dismal present, whatever their age.)
- 8fGTBjZxBcHq 5y ago
  Yes, I am not disputing that. I am talking about the difference between giving someone advice about a situation they're in, and telling them how to feel about it. "When I was your age, I didn't appreciate certain things so I'm pointing them out to you" is really different from "this is the best time of your life" which is a statement an external observer is just not equipped to make about someone else's life.
  - kodah 5y ago
    Those two things mean the same thing in casual conversation. I'm plenty picky about rhetoric when it comes to serious debate, but I would align your view more with trying to bully people over some sense of unfairness.
marcusverus 5y ago
> but there is a huge huge gulf between "that was the best time of my life" and "this is the best time of your life. Not really. It's notional advice, offered in a spirit of kindness. You don't have to like it, but labeling it 'extremely rude at best' is absolutely infantile.
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- 1_person 5y ago
  I mean, coming from some boomer who owns 5 houses and lives off rent while I'm paying his social security and subsidizing his stock market risk, and I'm going to be lucky to save enough to afford to die on the street with a grossly inflated tech income... "extremely rude at best" seems appropriate. I'd throw quite a few more words in there and maybe even a left hook under the right circumstances. Because fuck you too, boomer.
  - kasey_junk 5y ago
    I understand the sentiment but it’s worth noting in the US the median boomer _household_ wealth is 134k. More than 45% of boomer households have no extra retirement savings or income. I think it’s pretty fair to criticize that generations lack of forethought but not so much wealth hoarding.
    - 1_person 5y ago
      https://www.visualcapitalist.com/visualizing-net-worth-by-age-in-america/ https://www.visualcapitalist.com/visualizing-net-worth-by-ag... ok?
      - xboxnolifes 5y ago
        You source shows boomers with a median net worth of around $266,400. That's really not much to have accumulated over the course of 40+ years of work. That's roughly equivalent to putting away $150 a month.
ChrisRR 5y ago
It's better to make the most of being young and then continue to make the most of your life, than to not make the most of your life at a young age, then regret it when you're older

cj 5y ago

> It's at best just extremely rude to tell someone about their own life and how they should feel about it. I have to disagree. My grandparents often have great perspectives on life situations that they readily share when relevant to the people around them. No one sees it as rude, and if they do, it’s usually because the advice hits a little too close to home. Like “when I went through my divorce…”

dredmorbius 5y ago
Sharing insight and/or experience != telling someone how to feel about something. The truly insightful manage to prompt you to think without explicitly telling you to do so. (And are sometimes wrong. People can in fact be living in a truly dismal present, whatever their age.)
8fGTBjZxBcHq 5y ago
Yes, I am not disputing that. I am talking about the difference between giving someone advice about a situation they're in, and telling them how to feel about it. "When I was your age, I didn't appreciate certain things so I'm pointing them out to you" is really different from "this is the best time of your life" which is a statement an external observer is just not equipped to make about someone else's life.
- kodah 5y ago
  Those two things mean the same thing in casual conversation. I'm plenty picky about rhetoric when it comes to serious debate, but I would align your view more with trying to bully people over some sense of unfairness.

marcusverus 5y ago

> but there is a huge huge gulf between "that was the best time of my life" and "this is the best time of your life. Not really. It's notional advice, offered in a spirit of kindness. You don't have to like it, but labeling it 'extremely rude at best' is absolutely infantile.

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1_person 5y ago
I mean, coming from some boomer who owns 5 houses and lives off rent while I'm paying his social security and subsidizing his stock market risk, and I'm going to be lucky to save enough to afford to die on the street with a grossly inflated tech income... "extremely rude at best" seems appropriate. I'd throw quite a few more words in there and maybe even a left hook under the right circumstances. Because fuck you too, boomer.
- kasey_junk 5y ago
  I understand the sentiment but it’s worth noting in the US the median boomer _household_ wealth is 134k. More than 45% of boomer households have no extra retirement savings or income. I think it’s pretty fair to criticize that generations lack of forethought but not so much wealth hoarding.
  - 1_person 5y ago
    https://www.visualcapitalist.com/visualizing-net-worth-by-age-in-america/ https://www.visualcapitalist.com/visualizing-net-worth-by-ag... ok?
    - xboxnolifes 5y ago
      You source shows boomers with a median net worth of around $266,400. That's really not much to have accumulated over the course of 40+ years of work. That's roughly equivalent to putting away $150 a month.

ChrisRR 5y ago

It's better to make the most of being young and then continue to make the most of your life, than to not make the most of your life at a young age, then regret it when you're older