It's weird because I thought I was part of that demographic, but I'm really not. What matters here is mental health, communication and a willingness to stop us

It's weird because I thought I was part of that demographic, but I'm really not. What matters here is mental health, communication and a willingness to stop using stereotypes about masculinity or feminity. Body image problems and stereotyped social skills also are the problem. There is an arm length of emotional issues and personality types that stems from childhood. I discovered that most of the social mechanics at play in a romantic relationship are the same as in other types like friendship. Once you get that, it's easier. I've never really subscribed to the incel rhetoric, but there are interesting notions like non monogamy, female hypergamy, not to mention a lot of other statistics that help think about this issue.