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I have a 3 year old that loves talking to strangers. She misses people so much, and I'm really worried about how the quarantine is affecting her.

treeman79 6y ago
When my youngest was 3 she was best friends with all the others in the pool. They didn’t know she existed but she followed them around and loved be part of the group
- r00fus 6y ago
  This is so cute and relatable. I'd bet the others did know she existed (in the periphery), and were probably cool with it.
jonplackett 6y ago
Same thing here. The pandemic seems to have made her want to talk to strangers even more. I’m going to have to have a proper stranger-danger chat at some point because she will start a conversation with absolutely anyone
- jedimastert 6y ago
  > I’m going to have to have a proper stranger-danger chat at some point This is an internal conflict for me. On the one hand, I very much built my life and livelihood around actively seeking out strangers. I don't want to put the same fear that anyone would kill you for looking at you funny that my wife's parents put into her. It's also a fact that the vast number of cases of child harm come from someone the child already knows, so "stranger danger" is sort of a misnomer. On the other hand, I feel like all of this assumes a form of "common" sense that she doesn't have the experience for because she's only been around for like 3 year
  - jonplackett 6y ago
    I read this which is a good start - teaching the difference between a 'good' stranger and a 'bad' stranger. https://www.asecurelife.com/stranger-danger/ https://www.asecurelife.com/stranger-danger/
bpodgursky 6y ago
There's no reason to avoid talking to strangers outdoors IMO. Outdoor transmission is close to zero even among adults (and being 3 years old, your daughter is even less risk).
necovek 6y ago
I have a very shy 4 year old who generally wouldn't approach a group of unknown kids without watching them for 10-15 minutes first. With the quarantine and not seeing other people much, I worry how much worse his social anxiety would get. Which is to say, I'd be happier to be in your boat, but I am sure both of our kids will be fine since they've got loving parents to worry if they'll be fine ;)

treeman79 6y ago

When my youngest was 3 she was best friends with all the others in the pool. They didn’t know she existed but she followed them around and loved be part of the group

r00fus 6y ago
This is so cute and relatable. I'd bet the others did know she existed (in the periphery), and were probably cool with it.

jonplackett 6y ago

Same thing here. The pandemic seems to have made her want to talk to strangers even more. I’m going to have to have a proper stranger-danger chat at some point because she will start a conversation with absolutely anyone

jedimastert 6y ago
> I’m going to have to have a proper stranger-danger chat at some point This is an internal conflict for me. On the one hand, I very much built my life and livelihood around actively seeking out strangers. I don't want to put the same fear that anyone would kill you for looking at you funny that my wife's parents put into her. It's also a fact that the vast number of cases of child harm come from someone the child already knows, so "stranger danger" is sort of a misnomer. On the other hand, I feel like all of this assumes a form of "common" sense that she doesn't have the experience for because she's only been around for like 3 year
- jonplackett 6y ago
  I read this which is a good start - teaching the difference between a 'good' stranger and a 'bad' stranger. https://www.asecurelife.com/stranger-danger/ https://www.asecurelife.com/stranger-danger/

bpodgursky 6y ago

There's no reason to avoid talking to strangers outdoors IMO. Outdoor transmission is close to zero even among adults (and being 3 years old, your daughter is even less risk).

necovek 6y ago

I have a very shy 4 year old who generally wouldn't approach a group of unknown kids without watching them for 10-15 minutes first. With the quarantine and not seeing other people much, I worry how much worse his social anxiety would get. Which is to say, I'd be happier to be in your boat, but I am sure both of our kids will be fine since they've got loving parents to worry if they'll be fine ;)