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My dad is like this. Please tell me as I am curious, do you tend to self-reflect or have a vivid inner world? I'm trying to understand how my dad does this and

by serpix 5y ago

My dad is like this. Please tell me as I am curious, do you tend to self-reflect or have a vivid inner world? I'm trying to understand how my dad does this and my current theory is that he simply does not dwell on things and runs mostly on instinct.

IneffablePigeon 5y ago
Fwiw, I can also usually do this and I would consider myself a world class dweller. For me, it's about - consistent bedtime - doing as little as possible involving a screen in bed - consistent bedtime routine - consistent bedtime Screwing any of these up can quite easily cause me to start worrying about things instead of falling asleep. But I also think in part I'm just lucky and I can't really explain what causes it. I was always able to fall asleep in the car when I was younger, almost instantly. I can't fall asleep on public transport or planes at all though unless I'm really shattered.
matwood 5y ago
I self reflect a lot, but don't dwell on things outside of my control. How an interaction with a co-worker went I might think about for days and even journal about, but I can't tell you what I read on HN yesterday unless it fit into something I'm working on. I exercise almost every day and have for over 20 years. It definitely helps. I do have a basic bedtime routine. I go to bed at a consistent time, but I don't avoid screens or anything. I do avoid games and any news type things when I'm winding down for bed, but will read and watch part (it's always a part b/c I'm asleep before it's over heh) of a show on my phone. Also, DnD kicks on about an hour before bed so a random work email doesn't derail me. Finally, if there is something I'm worried about I take care of it. This goes back to not dwelling on things outside of my control, and dealing with the things that are.

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My dad is like this. Please tell me as I am curious, do you tend to self-reflect or have a vivid inner world? I'm trying to understand how my dad does this and

by serpix 5y ago

IneffablePigeon 5y ago
Fwiw, I can also usually do this and I would consider myself a world class dweller. For me, it's about - consistent bedtime - doing as little as possible involving a screen in bed - consistent bedtime routine - consistent bedtime Screwing any of these up can quite easily cause me to start worrying about things instead of falling asleep. But I also think in part I'm just lucky and I can't really explain what causes it. I was always able to fall asleep in the car when I was younger, almost instantly. I can't fall asleep on public transport or planes at all though unless I'm really shattered.
matwood 5y ago
I self reflect a lot, but don't dwell on things outside of my control. How an interaction with a co-worker went I might think about for days and even journal about, but I can't tell you what I read on HN yesterday unless it fit into something I'm working on. I exercise almost every day and have for over 20 years. It definitely helps. I do have a basic bedtime routine. I go to bed at a consistent time, but I don't avoid screens or anything. I do avoid games and any news type things when I'm winding down for bed, but will read and watch part (it's always a part b/c I'm asleep before it's over heh) of a show on my phone. Also, DnD kicks on about an hour before bed so a random work email doesn't derail me. Finally, if there is something I'm worried about I take care of it. This goes back to not dwelling on things outside of my control, and dealing with the things that are.