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Don’t compare yourself to others, compare to your own goals. If you need inspiration to even form a goal, then look towards others. There is no need to compare
by vmception 6y ago
Don’t compare yourself to others, compare to your own goals. If you need inspiration to even form a goal, then look towards others.
There is no need to compare yourself to the 26 year old billionaire, just like it was never relevant for the 26 year old billionaire to compare themselves to the general population. If your goal looks the same as their outcome, then benchmark yourself and be disappointed if its not working out. If not, then don’t.
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- gumby 6y agoInstead of goals, go for habits. You have to do the things you make habits of to get to your goals anyway.
- nefitty 6y agoSystems eliminate the risk of overshooting or undershooting, on the occasions that we misestimate our capabilities/capacities. Like Sisyphus, if he had set his mind on getting the boulder to the top of the mountain, he would objectively have lived a failed life. If he focuses instead on the act of each push, then it doesn’t matter if the stone rolls down the hill, his concern is the action, not the outcome.
- matwood 6y agoNot sure why you are downvoted. In many ways we are all Sisyphus. We get up every day, workout, go to work, reach a goal and then repeat .Do that enough and then we die. If we don't figure out how to find joy and happiness in the process, then life is going to be pretty miserable.
- haswell 6y agoWill you expand on what you're trying to say? This doesn't make sense to me. Goals are a desired result. Habits are deeply ingrained practices that are formed with repetition, and may or may not help you achieve that desired result. Some habits might actually hinder progress. The only way to know which habits to cultivate (or rely on) is to have a desired result in mind. Setting goals is important, because it helps clarify what you should spend time on, including the cultivation of habits that will help you achieve the goal. I could invest a lot of myself into the formation of a new (good) habit, but it may not help me achieve my goal. And goals can also be reached without the formation of habit.
- astockwell 6y agoI cannot speak for the grand-parent, but the general idea is captured in Atomic Habits [1]. [1] https://jamesclear.com/atomic-habits https://jamesclear.com/atomic-habits
- matwood 6y agoLots of people have goals, few have the discipline (habits) to achieve them.
- jrib 6y agoThere's a bit more detail in his book but this first resonated with me when I read Scott Adams' "How to Fail at Almost Everything and Still Win Big: Kind of the Story of My Life". Here are some of his blog posts on it: https://www.scottadamssays.com/2013/11/18/goals-vs-systems/ https://www.scottadamssays.com/2013/11/18/goals-vs-systems/ https://www.scottadamssays.com/2014/01/21/goals-are-for-losers-passion-is-bull/ https://www.scottadamssays.com/2014/01/21/goals-are-for-lose... Personally, I don't really think of it as goals and habits being mutually exclusive. Specifically, I wholeheartedly agree with your comment, "The only way to know which habits to cultivate (or rely on) is to have a desired result in mind."
- seppin 6y agoOh man, Scott Adams was such a good source for knowledge before he tapped into political snake oil.
- LegitShady 6y agogood habits are amazing, but picking which habits you need is often related to having goals to give those habits purpose.
- jvanderbot 6y agoAs the saying goes, this is barking at the finger, and missing the moon. The method (your habits vs op's) are not what's important. The result should be deep meaningful work for each individual.