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You have some odd ideas there. You might want to read The Moral Animal by Robert Wright for a more nuanced view of human nature by an evolutionary psychologist
by staticman2 6y ago
You have some odd ideas there.
You might want to read The Moral Animal by Robert Wright for a more nuanced view of human nature by an evolutionary psychologist. (A field which is controversial at the best of times- but if you're going to believe something controversial but possibly true you can do a lot better than what you posted here)
If I wasn't on my phone i'd type more, but in brief you have a weird idea of what fitness means for a woman looking for a mate. It doesn't necessarily mean "big muscles" but could mean something like a guy who loves her and will raise the kids with her. Because that's optimal for passing on genes.
Furthermore fitness for a male in search of a woman might mean a guy who is monogomous and caring (because faking those traits to manipulate a woman might be too difficult) because he can convince a woman to mate with him because he will help her with the kids.
- mxschumacher 6y agoThe original statement isn't about women in general but the dynamics on dating apps for people under 30. I think we can agree that Tinder and others are more focused on physical attributes than the ability to finance and support the raising of children
- jfengel 6y agoBelieve it or not, I don't agree. There's a lot more to a Tinder photo than physical attributes. A picture, as they say, is worth a thousand words. A photo can convey a lot about your personality. What you're doing in the photo is a big clue. So is your emotional state. Just choosing a photo that's well composed and makes you look your best means a lot. Tinder photos aren't mug shots for identification. You're not just comparing a person's physical features. Even the simple expedient of smiling will do you a lot of good. You'd be stunned at how many people (of both sexes) will choose a random grainy photo and slap it up there. There's more to success on Tinder than a photo, but it's not the simple box-ticking of attractiveness that people make it out to be. A good photo gets you to the point where you can talk with somebody. Then your personality matters.
- ericmcer 6y agoHow do you convey that via 6 pictures and ~100 words. Also “convince a woman to mate with him because he will help her with the kids”...
- osacial 6y agoAre you asking(for a friend) how to date?
- ericmcer 6y agoNo it was a mocking rhetorical question for the op.
- staticman2 6y agoYou don't need to find people online, do you? You can meet people other ways. But the book does suggest, If I recall, that the best way to convince a woman you will stick around and raise kids with her is for your genes to make you very much in love with her and make you want to raise kids with her. Some men supposedly have genes that make them fake being in love, but the book suggests women have genes that will try to sort out these fakers through natural lie detection, with varying result. Of course, you could choose to take what I just stated with a grain of salt.
- diebeforei485 6y agoI haven't read the book (it was written before I was born lol) but Tinder isn't about finding a partner to have kids with.