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The sad thing was the status grind on his partner; that's unfortunate but all too common. It seems he ended up with a more compatible partner in the end, so I'm

The sad thing was the status grind on his partner; that's unfortunate but all too common. It seems he ended up with a more compatible partner in the end, so I'm happy for him. I recently learned there is this term called "Sigma male" where status is not interesting. Now, I don't know if it is real or just some label, but I do know people that don't care. I personally don't care, but this is after testing the waters of spending money for happiness (remodel house, changes, etc...). The key that I hope to leverage is that for me money nor traditional status does not translates directly into happiness. However, working on my silly programming language and products that use it: very happy. My hope when I retire is to work almost full-time with the flexibility to stop and go. I'll be tinkering on http://www.adama-lang.org/ http://www.adama-lang.org/ whilst I try to bootstrap a board game company. I've come to the realization that most of my ideas are going to be seen harshly from many technical people, and they will not be taken seriously at first. My strategy therefor is to balance the meta-game of language building with building actual games. For instance, I'm currently designing a two player deck builder game for husband and wives to play. I gave a demo of a product that I am building with a friend, and his mind was blown. Sadly, this is the form of status that I seek. I don't see the lifestyle or the materialism, I seek demonstrating my cleverness and being ahead of the curve.

hw_tw_03_22 6y ago
>I've come to the realization that most of my ideas are going to be seen harshly from many technical people, and they will not be taken seriously at first. No, I think your ideas on fatFIRE are right and should be copied by everyone who can.
- mathgladiator 6y ago
  Well, the ideas I was referring to was my programming language ... for board games: http://www.adama-lang.org/ http://www.adama-lang.org/ I imagine that I have a few years until I see some of my ideas being more mainstream. There are a few database offerings (like firebase) which are similar to the infrastructure that I am going to build, but I am targeting a completely new data stack. Such a build doesn't make sense without products, and I'm limiting myself to board games because... that's what I want to ship. If I push my ideas out as a replacement for... mongo or mysql, then I'm going to get a lot of push-back. IF, instead, I push my ideas out via new products like a deck builder for married couples, then I just took an eccentric path.
- dang 6y ago
  Could you please stop creating accounts for every few comments you post? We ban accounts that do that. This is in the site guidelines: https://news.ycombinator.com/newsguidelines.html https://news.ycombinator.com/newsguidelines.html. You needn't use your real name, of course, but for HN to be a community, users need some identity for other users to relate to. Otherwise we may as well have no usernames and no community, and that would be a different kind of forum. https://hn.algolia.com/?query=community%20identity%20by:dang&sort=byDate&dateRange=all&type=comment&storyText=false&prefix&page=0 https://hn.algolia.com/?query=community%20identity%20by:dang...
psychiatrist24 6y ago
"Sadly, this is the form of status that I seek." It just goes to show you have to pick the right peer group to achieve the things you want, as people will want most to impress their peer group. I've often caught myself with that and Hacker News, dreaming of hacking together something that would yield a good scoring submission on HN, but ultimately would be unimportant.
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sushisource 6y ago
> status is not interesting ... I personally don't care > I seek demonstrating my cleverness Uh, what? Status seeking maybe means material success by default, but I think you'll find there are many, many people who care more about the approval of others than material success. That's you.
- mathgladiator 6y ago
  That's very true, yes. I'd say materialism, achievement, and social standing are the de-facto defaults for what we mean by status in the broader sense. We are tribal social creatures by nature, but we also play silly games like who can get the most cars or the biggest house.

hw_tw_03_22 6y ago

>I've come to the realization that most of my ideas are going to be seen harshly from many technical people, and they will not be taken seriously at first. No, I think your ideas on fatFIRE are right and should be copied by everyone who can.

mathgladiator 6y ago
Well, the ideas I was referring to was my programming language ... for board games: http://www.adama-lang.org/ http://www.adama-lang.org/ I imagine that I have a few years until I see some of my ideas being more mainstream. There are a few database offerings (like firebase) which are similar to the infrastructure that I am going to build, but I am targeting a completely new data stack. Such a build doesn't make sense without products, and I'm limiting myself to board games because... that's what I want to ship. If I push my ideas out as a replacement for... mongo or mysql, then I'm going to get a lot of push-back. IF, instead, I push my ideas out via new products like a deck builder for married couples, then I just took an eccentric path.
dang 6y ago
Could you please stop creating accounts for every few comments you post? We ban accounts that do that. This is in the site guidelines: https://news.ycombinator.com/newsguidelines.html https://news.ycombinator.com/newsguidelines.html. You needn't use your real name, of course, but for HN to be a community, users need some identity for other users to relate to. Otherwise we may as well have no usernames and no community, and that would be a different kind of forum. https://hn.algolia.com/?query=community%20identity%20by:dang&sort=byDate&dateRange=all&type=comment&storyText=false&prefix&page=0 https://hn.algolia.com/?query=community%20identity%20by:dang...

psychiatrist24 6y ago

"Sadly, this is the form of status that I seek." It just goes to show you have to pick the right peer group to achieve the things you want, as people will want most to impress their peer group. I've often caught myself with that and Hacker News, dreaming of hacking together something that would yield a good scoring submission on HN, but ultimately would be unimportant.

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sushisource 6y ago

> status is not interesting ... I personally don't care > I seek demonstrating my cleverness Uh, what? Status seeking maybe means material success by default, but I think you'll find there are many, many people who care more about the approval of others than material success. That's you.

mathgladiator 6y ago
That's very true, yes. I'd say materialism, achievement, and social standing are the de-facto defaults for what we mean by status in the broader sense. We are tribal social creatures by nature, but we also play silly games like who can get the most cars or the biggest house.