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I hear this explanation often, but it ignores the fact that only a small fraction of population uses Tinder. I don't know the real reason, but if I was to gues

I hear this explanation often, but it ignores the fact that only a small fraction of population uses Tinder. I don't know the real reason, but if I was to guess, the most obvious one is that there are so many interesting things to do, learn, engage in, that making considerable effort in order to have sex simply doesn't seem worth it, that's all.

MattGaiser 6y ago
So basically men quit sex because it is difficult to obtain for them and there are now other options but women continue to have sex because it is easy to obtain?
- orwin 6y ago
  Its an interesting take. I have no energy to spend in a loveless relationship tbh, and only respond when someone start flirting with me, but i never engage anything, and never did since my first relationship of 5 years. It sometime led to casual sex when i was still drinking on saturday night, but now that i stopped drinking, i stay at the flirting stage and never go further, because i realized that either casual sex is overrated, either i'm weird and don't get as much pleasure as other men, and the downsides are bigger than the upsides. I have another take: younger male are less attractive than older male for females between 20 and 26, or less rich?
- dvfjsdhgfv 6y ago
  > women continue to have sex because it is easy to obtain? It's not so much that it's easy to obtain but at least in Western cultures it's expected that the initiating side should be male, and females can either accept or refuse it. This creates a somewhat unbalanced economy.
nickthemagicman 6y ago
There's tons of dating apps besides Tinder.
- AnIdiotOnTheNet 6y ago
  Sure, but they're at least as awful because the whole concept is awful. I have never seen a counter example anyway.
  - anthony_d 6y ago
    Not all dating apps are equal. I had Tinder installed for 3 days: it was really really awful, if that was the only option I would have happily given up dating. My view of Tinder is that it's the app for defective people who just want sex. Bumble on the other hand seems fine. Relatively normal women and I met a great one that I've been dating for 9 months now. I'm sure I'm partially biased because it worked for me, but the difference really was incredible between Tinder and Bumble.
kar5pt 6y ago
50% of Americans in their 20s and roughly a third of Americans in all age groups report having used dating apps. What do you mean "a small percentage of the population"? https://www.pewresearch.org/fact-tank/2020/02/06/10-facts-about-americans-and-online-dating/ https://www.pewresearch.org/fact-tank/2020/02/06/10-facts-ab...
- dvfjsdhgfv 6y ago
  Well, I also used Tinder. For 5 minutes, because everyone was talking about it. I felt embarrassed I did. Felt like superficiality maxed out. In any case, if we accept the stats as true[0] and 15% of people under 30 use Tinder, this still leaves us with a huge majority of people who don't use it, so explaining significant social dynamics changes by an app doesn't seem convincing to me. Yes, I know there are other dating apps, but they don't come close to Tinder in terms of popularity. [0] https://www.statista.com/statistics/814698/share-of-us-internet-users-who-use-tinder-by-age/ https://www.statista.com/statistics/814698/share-of-us-inter...

MattGaiser 6y ago

So basically men quit sex because it is difficult to obtain for them and there are now other options but women continue to have sex because it is easy to obtain?

orwin 6y ago
Its an interesting take. I have no energy to spend in a loveless relationship tbh, and only respond when someone start flirting with me, but i never engage anything, and never did since my first relationship of 5 years. It sometime led to casual sex when i was still drinking on saturday night, but now that i stopped drinking, i stay at the flirting stage and never go further, because i realized that either casual sex is overrated, either i'm weird and don't get as much pleasure as other men, and the downsides are bigger than the upsides. I have another take: younger male are less attractive than older male for females between 20 and 26, or less rich?
dvfjsdhgfv 6y ago
> women continue to have sex because it is easy to obtain? It's not so much that it's easy to obtain but at least in Western cultures it's expected that the initiating side should be male, and females can either accept or refuse it. This creates a somewhat unbalanced economy.

nickthemagicman 6y ago

There's tons of dating apps besides Tinder.

AnIdiotOnTheNet 6y ago
Sure, but they're at least as awful because the whole concept is awful. I have never seen a counter example anyway.
- anthony_d 6y ago
  Not all dating apps are equal. I had Tinder installed for 3 days: it was really really awful, if that was the only option I would have happily given up dating. My view of Tinder is that it's the app for defective people who just want sex. Bumble on the other hand seems fine. Relatively normal women and I met a great one that I've been dating for 9 months now. I'm sure I'm partially biased because it worked for me, but the difference really was incredible between Tinder and Bumble.

kar5pt 6y ago

50% of Americans in their 20s and roughly a third of Americans in all age groups report having used dating apps. What do you mean "a small percentage of the population"? https://www.pewresearch.org/fact-tank/2020/02/06/10-facts-about-americans-and-online-dating/ https://www.pewresearch.org/fact-tank/2020/02/06/10-facts-ab...

dvfjsdhgfv 6y ago
Well, I also used Tinder. For 5 minutes, because everyone was talking about it. I felt embarrassed I did. Felt like superficiality maxed out. In any case, if we accept the stats as true[0] and 15% of people under 30 use Tinder, this still leaves us with a huge majority of people who don't use it, so explaining significant social dynamics changes by an app doesn't seem convincing to me. Yes, I know there are other dating apps, but they don't come close to Tinder in terms of popularity. [0] https://www.statista.com/statistics/814698/share-of-us-internet-users-who-use-tinder-by-age/ https://www.statista.com/statistics/814698/share-of-us-inter...