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I made a couple of reads to try to parse out what was going on... and I just ended up confused. I think the following quote best shows the frame of reference I

I made a couple of reads to try to parse out what was going on... and I just ended up confused. I think the following quote best shows the frame of reference I eventually came to. > Consider the conflict between the person whose sense of justice makes it impossible for her to give up on her anger, and the person whose sense of justice makes it impossible for her to become angry. There is a lot of discussion, but I don’t really see the author come to any useful, supported conclusion. The ending comment about people being nicer to each other seemingly comes out of no where. I’m not sure what to make of it. Maybe I’m expecting an informative article when there isn’t one, or I’ve grossly missed some stated point or necessary context.

patcon 6y ago
Funny. I found this able to put words on something I've struggled with. I found it pretty profound in its observation In my reading: This author is acknowledging that they're "not nice" in small personal interactions, but is feeling others are "not nice" in large structural interactions with groups and systems. And they're lamenting that others commonly praise a "water under the bridge" thinking about small person-to-person things that this author struggles with, whereas the author's choice to view larger forces that way is scolded as deserving more anger. Does that interpretation ring with you? (I'm not saying I agree with that interpretation btw, but it's a new thought for me.)
- kayodelycaon 6y ago
  I definitely see that as one of many things the article talks about. There's a lot of ideas, but I don't see a narrative in it. > Does that interpretation ring with you? Not really. I have no frame of reference for understanding either group. I struggle with extreme emotions all the time, to the point where everyone considers them to be inappropriate. For the safety of everyone, I've learned to read and accept my emotions while also letting them go. I find their friend problem particularly irritating. All anger do is prompt me to logically double check my relationship with the person. Then I would determine if my anger is either justified. If it was justified, I would have to decide if I need to act on it or not. For most people, this is not a conscious process and they spend a lot of time rationalizing after the fact. If I'm going to act emotionally, I don't need to justify it. My therapist loves me... I'm not sure if that's good or bad. :)
  - patcon 6y ago
    I hear that. Thanks for reply. Very different from my experience, but glad to understand. > My therapist loves me... I'm not sure if that's good or bad. Yay for therapy :) Just had my first session today

patcon 6y ago

Funny. I found this able to put words on something I've struggled with. I found it pretty profound in its observation In my reading: This author is acknowledging that they're "not nice" in small personal interactions, but is feeling others are "not nice" in large structural interactions with groups and systems. And they're lamenting that others commonly praise a "water under the bridge" thinking about small person-to-person things that this author struggles with, whereas the author's choice to view larger forces that way is scolded as deserving more anger. Does that interpretation ring with you? (I'm not saying I agree with that interpretation btw, but it's a new thought for me.)

kayodelycaon 6y ago
I definitely see that as one of many things the article talks about. There's a lot of ideas, but I don't see a narrative in it. > Does that interpretation ring with you? Not really. I have no frame of reference for understanding either group. I struggle with extreme emotions all the time, to the point where everyone considers them to be inappropriate. For the safety of everyone, I've learned to read and accept my emotions while also letting them go. I find their friend problem particularly irritating. All anger do is prompt me to logically double check my relationship with the person. Then I would determine if my anger is either justified. If it was justified, I would have to decide if I need to act on it or not. For most people, this is not a conscious process and they spend a lot of time rationalizing after the fact. If I'm going to act emotionally, I don't need to justify it. My therapist loves me... I'm not sure if that's good or bad. :)
- patcon 6y ago
  I hear that. Thanks for reply. Very different from my experience, but glad to understand. > My therapist loves me... I'm not sure if that's good or bad. Yay for therapy :) Just had my first session today