I doubt the people making that argument and those that spam toxic messages are necessarily the same. It is a coping mechanism because it makes no sense to be a

I doubt the people making that argument and those that spam toxic messages are necessarily the same. It is a coping mechanism because it makes no sense to be angry at a user that doesn't even care that much in the first place. From that perspective it makes no sense to be angry at messages. Doesn't always work, obviously, but it is the best way to deal with it.