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Thanks (all input welcome really, not restricted to mums) I was kinda thinking my mum could take her for a couple of mornings a week, and I know my partner's m

by Jem 15y ago

Thanks (all input welcome really, not restricted to mums) I was kinda thinking my mum could take her for a couple of mornings a week, and I know my partner's mum is eager to look after her on Wednesdays. I was hoping that + evenings would be enough. Maybe I'm being totally unrealistic.

pbhjpbhj 15y ago
You've got two whole days of work time there (if the grandparents will commit). With some post-bedtime work then you should be able to work ½ time without getting too frazzled. Easy ;0)>
petervandijck 15y ago
Yes, planned like that it's doable. As long as you realize you can't work while taking care of the kid. (You can do house chores etc, but not work on the computer.)
eps 15y ago
You can work when (a) she is with someone (b) she is having a daytime nap (c) she is passed out for the day. Realistically you will not have contiguous stretches to work longer than an hour or two, frequently down to just 15-20 minutes, when you will need to get up and attend to the child. Regardless how short these breaks are they are the source of frustration. You just cannot concentrate. The best option is to work at night, but that yields 3 hours of work time and still manages to cut into sleep time and quickly leads to exhaustion. You may want to look at Provigil and caffeine tablets, because you will be counting every single free minute available for work. So, yeah, sorry, it is really tough. Brace yourself, it will suck, but taking your girl out of daycare is the right thing to do. Letting random people have major influence on the formation of child's personality in this early age is just plain wrong.
Splines 15y ago
Are your parents and/or in-laws retired? Maybe you can get them to take more time if you explained the situation. If they're not already committed to something else, they'd hopefully be glad to help out in your situation. My wife and I are pretty much on our own in a different country than our parents, and on retrospection it would have been easier on us if we were able to get our parents to babysit every now-and-then. We're fortunate that I make enough that my wife is able to stay at home and watch our kids, but she misses her career and we also miss having one-on-one time together. Things are going well for us right now but we lack flexibility in our schedules.
- Jem 15y ago
  My mum looked after my daughter for a couple of months when I first went back to work. Unfortunately she's disabled so it's not a solution long term. My partner's mum works full time.

by Jem 15y ago

pbhjpbhj 15y ago

You've got two whole days of work time there (if the grandparents will commit). With some post-bedtime work then you should be able to work ½ time without getting too frazzled. Easy ;0)>

petervandijck 15y ago

Yes, planned like that it's doable. As long as you realize you can't work while taking care of the kid. (You can do house chores etc, but not work on the computer.)

eps 15y ago

You can work when (a) she is with someone (b) she is having a daytime nap (c) she is passed out for the day. Realistically you will not have contiguous stretches to work longer than an hour or two, frequently down to just 15-20 minutes, when you will need to get up and attend to the child. Regardless how short these breaks are they are the source of frustration. You just cannot concentrate. The best option is to work at night, but that yields 3 hours of work time and still manages to cut into sleep time and quickly leads to exhaustion. You may want to look at Provigil and caffeine tablets, because you will be counting every single free minute available for work. So, yeah, sorry, it is really tough. Brace yourself, it will suck, but taking your girl out of daycare is the right thing to do. Letting random people have major influence on the formation of child's personality in this early age is just plain wrong.

Splines 15y ago

Are your parents and/or in-laws retired? Maybe you can get them to take more time if you explained the situation. If they're not already committed to something else, they'd hopefully be glad to help out in your situation. My wife and I are pretty much on our own in a different country than our parents, and on retrospection it would have been easier on us if we were able to get our parents to babysit every now-and-then. We're fortunate that I make enough that my wife is able to stay at home and watch our kids, but she misses her career and we also miss having one-on-one time together. Things are going well for us right now but we lack flexibility in our schedules.

Jem 15y ago
My mum looked after my daughter for a couple of months when I first went back to work. Unfortunately she's disabled so it's not a solution long term. My partner's mum works full time.