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I've been at a company 6 years, I was thinking of leaving because I'd achived pretty much all I could in the role. In September a new CEO joined. Having listene

I've been at a company 6 years, I was thinking of leaving because I'd achived pretty much all I could in the role. In September a new CEO joined. Having listened to their plans, I was excited, new ideas, a firm direction. I decided to stay a month later, I resigned. They were a bully who perceived any geniuine question as a challenge. Good people, coming out of meetings trying not to cry. I was coming out of meetings feeling like I was being beaten up. My last day is next Thursday. People keep telling me how envious they are of me. I'm feeling guilt for leaving them in the lurch.

marcosdumay 6y ago
> I'm feeling guilt for leaving them in the lurch. You are not making their lives any worse. Most likely you don't even have that kind of power.
- to11mtm 6y ago
  If it's a strong enough feeling, that's probably another sign of abuse from the employer.
otaviokz 6y ago
The feeling of guilt is, unfortunately, normal. Just try to keep in mind you didn't really do nothing wrong, and it will help overcoming it faster.
- rightbyte 6y ago
  Feeling sorry for someone and feeling guilt feels the same for me. Maybe OP are mixing them up? Ie. he feels sorry for them as soon as the "we are in this together" is gone?
  - loopz 6y ago
    Guilt (fear) and feeling sorry for someone else (empathy), are two distinct feelings. The problem is the sociopath behaviour and attitudes, that will project all their bad feelings unto others. The sociopath won't acknowledge their own state, so will blame others, also knowingly and silently for personal gain. The remedy is radical honesty and working with oneself. Nobody else can do the work for someone, but breaking the patterns can be inspiring. Don't let authority gain undue power over your lives. Some day you will regret it.
- erikerikson 6y ago
  > keep in mind you didn't really do nothing wrong Perhaps you meant to write "Keep in mind you acted in good faith"?
toast0 6y ago
> I'm feeling guilt for leaving them in the lurch. Keep in touch with them, and let them know of opportunities that fit them where you landed, if it's a better place.

marcosdumay 6y ago

> I'm feeling guilt for leaving them in the lurch. You are not making their lives any worse. Most likely you don't even have that kind of power.

to11mtm 6y ago
If it's a strong enough feeling, that's probably another sign of abuse from the employer.

otaviokz 6y ago

The feeling of guilt is, unfortunately, normal. Just try to keep in mind you didn't really do nothing wrong, and it will help overcoming it faster.

rightbyte 6y ago
Feeling sorry for someone and feeling guilt feels the same for me. Maybe OP are mixing them up? Ie. he feels sorry for them as soon as the "we are in this together" is gone?
- loopz 6y ago
  Guilt (fear) and feeling sorry for someone else (empathy), are two distinct feelings. The problem is the sociopath behaviour and attitudes, that will project all their bad feelings unto others. The sociopath won't acknowledge their own state, so will blame others, also knowingly and silently for personal gain. The remedy is radical honesty and working with oneself. Nobody else can do the work for someone, but breaking the patterns can be inspiring. Don't let authority gain undue power over your lives. Some day you will regret it.
erikerikson 6y ago
> keep in mind you didn't really do nothing wrong Perhaps you meant to write "Keep in mind you acted in good faith"?

toast0 6y ago

> I'm feeling guilt for leaving them in the lurch. Keep in touch with them, and let them know of opportunities that fit them where you landed, if it's a better place.