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This is a very healthy perspective on relationships and I fear the nuance of this view is often lost in discussions about relationships. I'm sure that if you po
by sebmellen 6y ago
This is a very healthy perspective on relationships and I fear the nuance of this view is often lost in discussions about relationships. I'm sure that if you posted this on a Reddit relationship forum, you'd get responses telling you that this is oppression or abuse, and you shouldn't put up with it.
Relationships are all based on compromise, and the art of compromise is really what makes a relationship. I love the story you tell of your mother saying "Would you just humor me and do it?". My father did the same.
- markc 6y ago>Relationships are all based on compromise Yes, and I assume this is implied, but compromise must strike an acceptable balance. When things get too one-sided it's generally a recipe for trouble. A good rule of thumb is for both partners to estimate their contributions or compromises to be 60+% of the total, and then there's some chance that it'll be fair (i.e. most people over-estimate their contribution/sacrifice) I think a lot of relationship issues result from a struggle over balance/fairness because they aren't sufficiently dedicated to the others' interests and well-being.
- CarbyAu 6y agoI have a two year old. So far I haven't used that phrase but I think I will add it to my bag'o'tricks. So far what has worked is spending time trying to explain. He looks at me quietly, you can see his cogs whirring and - while he has not much comprehension of my reasoning - he goes along with it because: - whatever Dad is saying must be important because he is putting effort into it. - if I do it he'll shut up and I can go back to fun...