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This person clearly doesn't have young children. I don't choose when I wake up, I have to wake up when the 1 year old wakes up. With no daycare because of COVID

This person clearly doesn't have young children. I don't choose when I wake up, I have to wake up when the 1 year old wakes up. With no daycare because of COVID, I am juggling parenting and work from the moment I get up until I crash after they fall asleep. It is literally non-stop. Finding time for the bathroom is a struggle. I get zero work done. I am typing this out while waiting for my four year old to finish going to the bathroom. And now I have to go.

lopmotr 6y ago
It's still choices. You want to care for your child more than you want to sleep, etc. You don't have to do any of those things. Parents abandoning their children is a popular choice.
- fred_is_fred 6y ago
  I'm unsure if this is a terrible attempt at sarcasm or just a really terrible take.
- robjan 6y ago
  Lucky you weren't abandoned otherwise you wouldn't be in the privileged position to have the time to suggest that abandoning your child is a sensible idea.
igotsideas 6y ago
This is my current life and can verify that we have 0 minutes for other things. However, if you’re POS parent, then sure there is time.
- hawk_ 6y ago
  There can be other reasons why parents can have time,they don't have to be POS, may be they organise their time differently or say live in a low COL location and work fewer hours or some such combination.
- ramraj07 6y ago
  I'm in no way supporting the outrageouslu peurile post, but do you think an argument can be made that children seem to take more effort from their parents than needed? The reasons could be still external, but I'm still curious if you can do a good job as a parent without fully dedicating your time. Full disclosure: am an armchair childless philosopher
  - LoSboccacc 6y ago
    the affirmation than a children take up all your time is exceedingly simple to be shown false: if a children takes 100% of your time no exceptions, what twins' parent would do? it's clear that there's some psychological mechanism at play that transform single child parents into helicopter parents at a great conversation rate, to the point they have to oversee every minute of their children's lives without even realising that's happening having multiple children quickly teaches you that yes, children can survive some time on their own, but multiple children is a rare sight these days
    - robjan 6y ago
      The amount of time that having an additional child takes isn't linear. If you have multiple children of a similar age (which is the most common scenario); you can entertain, feed, etc. them at the same time.
      - LoSboccacc 6y ago
        it still takes more time than one children. even if it's ten minutes for things that can't be parallel like changing nappies, it contradict the claim that one children takes all of one's time it's simple hard logic, wouldn't have expected to have to explain it or getting downvoted for it on hacker news.
        Hates_ 6y ago
        When you have one child you give them all your attention. When you have two you divide it. When you have one, maybe it take 5 minutes to change a nappy, then you play for 10 minutes after. When you have two, you then have 10 minutes of nappy changing time, then only 5 minutes to play. The time is reallocated, not added to.
steve_adams_86 6y ago
The internet is disproportionately filled with the voices of people with excess time on their hands

lopmotr 6y ago

It's still choices. You want to care for your child more than you want to sleep, etc. You don't have to do any of those things. Parents abandoning their children is a popular choice.

fred_is_fred 6y ago
I'm unsure if this is a terrible attempt at sarcasm or just a really terrible take.
robjan 6y ago
Lucky you weren't abandoned otherwise you wouldn't be in the privileged position to have the time to suggest that abandoning your child is a sensible idea.

igotsideas 6y ago

This is my current life and can verify that we have 0 minutes for other things. However, if you’re POS parent, then sure there is time.

hawk_ 6y ago
There can be other reasons why parents can have time,they don't have to be POS, may be they organise their time differently or say live in a low COL location and work fewer hours or some such combination.
ramraj07 6y ago
I'm in no way supporting the outrageouslu peurile post, but do you think an argument can be made that children seem to take more effort from their parents than needed? The reasons could be still external, but I'm still curious if you can do a good job as a parent without fully dedicating your time. Full disclosure: am an armchair childless philosopher
- LoSboccacc 6y ago
  the affirmation than a children take up all your time is exceedingly simple to be shown false: if a children takes 100% of your time no exceptions, what twins' parent would do? it's clear that there's some psychological mechanism at play that transform single child parents into helicopter parents at a great conversation rate, to the point they have to oversee every minute of their children's lives without even realising that's happening having multiple children quickly teaches you that yes, children can survive some time on their own, but multiple children is a rare sight these days
  - robjan 6y ago
    The amount of time that having an additional child takes isn't linear. If you have multiple children of a similar age (which is the most common scenario); you can entertain, feed, etc. them at the same time.
    - LoSboccacc 6y ago
      it still takes more time than one children. even if it's ten minutes for things that can't be parallel like changing nappies, it contradict the claim that one children takes all of one's time it's simple hard logic, wouldn't have expected to have to explain it or getting downvoted for it on hacker news.
      - Hates_ 6y ago
        When you have one child you give them all your attention. When you have two you divide it. When you have one, maybe it take 5 minutes to change a nappy, then you play for 10 minutes after. When you have two, you then have 10 minutes of nappy changing time, then only 5 minutes to play. The time is reallocated, not added to.

steve_adams_86 6y ago

The internet is disproportionately filled with the voices of people with excess time on their hands