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> be a little pushy Eh? Why would that be ok? I think it's worth asking them why they don't want it anymore. If they continue to say no, do you really think it
by bergstromm466 6y ago
> be a little pushy
Eh? Why would that be ok? I think it's worth asking them why they don't want it anymore. If they continue to say no, do you really think it is ok to start pouring it down their throat?
Consent can be revoked at any point in time.
For what it's worth I think most cultures today are crap at consent. I think many of us are victim to a pre-#MeToo culture where sexual harrasment was somewhat more socially 'acceptable' or 'accepted' [1][2]. I think of the memes of women who seem uncomfortable when Biden touches them. Dr. Bessel van der Kolk talks about his desire for a 'trauma-conscious' society.
To me there is no denying that often we have been hurt, and that there is not enough support for many people out there. I believe we don't get the support that we would need to heal from these things. Walking around hurt and unhealed is unfortunately the norm.
> That's a cute way to talk through the ideas
Rape and sexual assualt are very common, so I think this video is more than 'cute'; it's essential. I hope we start showing this to kids at a younger age, to help them grow boundaries early on. This also concerns consent for non-sexual contact such as hugs, or just any other type of physical contact with another person.
[1] women: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wWoP8VpbpYI https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wWoP8VpbpYI
[2] men: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=uc6QxD2_yQw https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=uc6QxD2_yQw
- Dylan16807 6y agoPouring tea down someone's throat is more than "a little pushy". I mean that "come on, you got me to make this tea, at least have a sip" is perfectly fine to say about actual tea. In the analogy, doing that is not good. (Assume this is a situation where they don't have a specific reason, so asking why they don't want it is completely nonproductive.)
- bergstromm466 6y agoYeah fair point, I see what you mean