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There's no "biological proof" of a lot of things that has to do with a brain, and while some people do anything for money - even if their title say "doctor" - A

There's no "biological proof" of a lot of things that has to do with a brain, and while some people do anything for money - even if their title say "doctor" - ADD/ADHD is still a very, very, real thing. We might still don't know of if it's really a disability of the mind, or of the society, but for those who suffer it, it doesn't really matter. The drugs can certainly be used as performance enhancers, but that doesn't change anything. Nitroglycerin can be used as to blow things up, but it's still useful for people with heart disease, and for some I believe there are still few options. ADHD or ADD for me, is suffering. Visibly, palpably, in one or several ways. It's not "some things are hard to do", no. It's not that. It's trying to do the basic of life, and simply not be able to, no matter how talented you are. Not for the lack of will power and determination, those are largely irrelevant on this side of the border, they mean something completely different here. If you ever want anything else out of life than that what your compulsion drives you to do, to get away from the boredom that makes your skin crawl and itch? You'll believe it'll work this time too, as you have the 3649 times before. The eternal optimist, still seemingly doomed to fail. "See a therapist" they say, when it was the therapist who sent me to the psychiatrist. "You need to try harder", when my body and brain simply stopped working because I tried so hard. When anyone claim something like ADD/ADHD doesn't exist, I don't really get mad any more. I think I used to. Now I feel sad, because that sentiment is common enough that people don't get help when they should. Instead they pointlessly loose years, or even decades of their lives to their own whims, because some people refuse to believe the accounts of thousands. Never able to either choose their path, or live as they choose. Our existence seems to scare people, and our inability to function in society can't easily be discounted without consequence for ones own image of self and what we as humans are, so instead our accounts are discredited. It's okay if you don't understand how it is. It is hard to understand how someone can be so alike oneself, and yet so different, I've experienced that myself, but from a different perspective. I will be content if you accept that I write from experience, and that my account is in no way unique, thought I've been told that the way I tell it is.

partyboat1586 6y ago
When you say doing the basics of life what specifically do you mean? I'm asking because I get the feeling that other people consider the basics to be a wider set of things than I do. For me the basics means feeding yourself and having some relationships. But for other people it means being able to keep appointments, basic planning and follow through, ability to sit still through long ceremonies, not letting dishes/laundry get to the point where you have no clean dishes/clothes every single time. The second set of stuff is things I've struggled with in my life to a further degree than my peers. It's the kind of things that teenagers are bad at and imagine adults with ADHD continue to be bad at. The problem I think is everybody occasionally struggles with this stuff. They don't understand what it would mean to always struggle with all of it all the time. What it means for it not to be a choice. Is that what you had in mind?

partyboat1586 6y ago

When you say doing the basics of life what specifically do you mean? I'm asking because I get the feeling that other people consider the basics to be a wider set of things than I do. For me the basics means feeding yourself and having some relationships. But for other people it means being able to keep appointments, basic planning and follow through, ability to sit still through long ceremonies, not letting dishes/laundry get to the point where you have no clean dishes/clothes every single time. The second set of stuff is things I've struggled with in my life to a further degree than my peers. It's the kind of things that teenagers are bad at and imagine adults with ADHD continue to be bad at. The problem I think is everybody occasionally struggles with this stuff. They don't understand what it would mean to always struggle with all of it all the time. What it means for it not to be a choice. Is that what you had in mind?