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Around middle school, I decided that I would stop using swear words, because it seemed like getting myself in trouble by letting one slip out at an inappropriat

• hiccuphippo 6y ago
  ESL here. At school one teacher told us using swear words only show your lack of knowledge for better words. I took that to heart and the very few times I've used them, I really had no other option. However I've noticed swear words come more easily to me in English and don't feel as harsh as when I hear them in Spanish. I wonder if it's my lack of vocabulary.
  • kandaBear 6y ago
    There's actually been interesting research done about that idea, that people who swear have a smaller vocabulary or are less fluent. It seems that the opposite is actually true¹, people who swear are actually demonstrating a broader fluency. Worth a read! ¹ https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/abs/pii/S038800011400151X https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/abs/pii/S03880...
    • dylan604 6y ago
      I've never given credence to the "cursing == less articulate" either. It's knowing the impact dropping a curse can have to get people's attention. Plus, sometimes, people are just too dense to get how bothered you are, but drop a colorful phrase, and they tend to get the point. Like the George Carlin bit, take a word like "incredible" and it's a nice word. Stick fuck in the middle of it to make "infuckingcredible" and it's an even better word. Fanfuckingtastic > fantastic and is much more impactful than "most fantastic". Having said all of that, I have never told someone FU. That's my line.
      • jsjohnst 6y ago
        > Fanfuckingtastic > fantastic and is much more impactful than "most fantastic" I’ve always heard and used that “word” in the sarcastic sense, rather than as meaning more/most fantastic. Using in context to illustrate: Friend: I broke the part we need to finish the project. Me: Fanfuckingtastic, guess I’ll get busy making another one.
        • dylan604 6y ago
          well, people have misused grammar for ages <ducks> Again though, that's the great thing about "swear" word. Shit can be good, shit can be bad, and shit can just be shit. Not being a grammarian, how many words other than curse words be a noun, verb and adjective all at the same time. buffalo comes to mind, but is just non-nonsensical when used.
          • jsjohnst 6y ago
            > Not being a grammarian, how many words other than curse words be a noun, verb and adjective all at the same time. Here’s just a few, there’s a bunch more: - back - best - better - bitter - broadside - clean - clear - close - cod - collect - counter - crisscross - damn - double - down - even - express - fair - fast - fine - firm - flush - forward - free - full - home - jolly - last - light - low - o.k. - okay - out - pat - plain - plumb - plump - pop - prompt - quiet - right - rough - round - second - short - solo - square - steady - still - tiptoe - true - upstage - well - wholesale - worst - wrong - zigzag As an added bonus, the words above aren’t just valid as nouns, verbs, and adjectives, they are also adverbs too. Source: https://onweb3.wordpress.com/2013/08/14/663/ https://onweb3.wordpress.com/2013/08/14/663/
    • jawns 6y ago
      It doesn't surprise me that people with larger overall vocabularies also have larger swear vocabularies. But the study you cite deals only with taboo word fluency, not with actual usage. I would be curious whether high-vocab swearers diverge from low-vocab swearers in how they actually use bad language. In my experience, even my high-vocab friends drop f-bombs in substantially the same way that lower-vocab friends do. I don't buy the "lack of vocab" hypothesis, because no one smurfs swear words as a smurfy substitutes for inadequate vocab, but as for the "lazy language" hypothesis, I think it's possible to use curse words as a crutch even if you have the capacity to do otherwise. And fluency doesn't necessarily indicate usage. I could rattle off many taboo words with which I am acquainted, but that doesn't mean I choose to use them.
      • a_wild_dandan 6y ago
        I hypothesize that the "swearing => stunted vocabulary" argument is just a post hoc rationalization to give some justification for not liking bad words.
        • pbhjpbhj 6y ago
          I think you're wrong. There are two distinct populations (in UK), those of poor vocabulary who use swearing all the time and don't seem capable of speaking in a nuanced way. And those who have the vocabulary to not swear, can still express themselves without expletives but choose to use them depending on the company/context they're in. I found as a teenager that I'd swear to try and appear cool, and when I lacked sufficient nuance to my vocabulary to clearly express my feelings, and decided I wanted to do better. I don't really care if you swear - except in front of children (because they have to learn not to swear in the wrong context when they can get in trouble from others who are more conservative) - but unless you demonstrate otherwise I'll assume it's lack of decent vocabulary. Almost all people I've worked with who've sworn a lot (amongst general company) have had very low levels of education. I don't really understand the whole "these words are shocking" attitude, eg cunt, people give simple utterances too much power.
      • mirimir 6y ago
        Some of my favorites come from the Jargon Lexicon.[0] 0) http://hackersdictionary.com/html/The-Jargon-Lexicon-framed.html http://hackersdictionary.com/html/The-Jargon-Lexicon-framed....
    • 6gvONxR4sf7o 6y ago
      I'd love to see something like the entropy of words actually used by people who use common crutch words (e.g. fucking, literally, whatever) more often (somehow correcting for the fact that people who use any set of words unusually often will have lower entropy).
  • sbilstein 6y ago
    Spanish-speaking at home but grew up in the US speaking english everywhere else. I've wondered all my life why swearing feels less intense in Spanish than in English. Spanish broadcasts are rarely censored on TV or Radio. Maybe it is a cultural thing?
    • IgorPartola 6y ago
      I am also bilingual. My pet theory is that it has to do with growing up, family authority over you as a child, etc. As a kid if you say a strong curse word you could likely get in trouble and it would be a memorable negative experience. But if you say it in a different language outside your family home there is rarely a negative consequence. My family was particularly absurd: my mother wouldn’t curse and wouldn’t say the word for shit in Russian but would use the English word “shit” as a curse word. Go figure.
  • fernandotakai 6y ago
    cursing in english, for me at least, doesn't feel... real (compared to my native language). in english, i swear like a pirate while on my native language, i try not to do it.
    • eru 6y ago
      Googling for 'swearing in second language' gives lots of articles about how it feels less intense. Eg https://www.connexionfrance.com/Mag/Language/Swearing-in-a-second-language-is-easier https://www.connexionfrance.com/Mag/Language/Swearing-in-a-s... https://www.theguardian.com/science/blog/2017/mar/27/bad-language-why-being-bilingual-makes-swearing-easier https://www.theguardian.com/science/blog/2017/mar/27/bad-lan...
    • _fat_santa 6y ago
      I'm Russian, though I moved to the US at age 5 so English is my 'native' language, even though it's technically not. I see this on both sides. I find American curse words harsher than Russian ones, but my parents are the opposite. I can drop a "fuck" and no one really minds, drop a "suka" (roughly equates to "bitch" in Russian), my parents will loose their minds.
      • saagarjha 6y ago
        I’m sure my parents would do the same if I dropped one in English, even though they are not native English speakers.
    • int_19h 6y ago
      Same thing here. I think the difference is whether the swear words are ingrained as part of "absorbing" the language as a child, as opposed to learning it "properly" as an adult. Basically, whether you only understand their meaning rationally, or it's a deeply ingrained taboo.
  • 6gvONxR4sf7o 6y ago
    I think it's a part of a broader challenge. In writing circles, there's always advice not to use some specific list of words. The list varies. An example list from a quick googling: - really, very - just - totally, completely, absolutely - thing - some - rather, quite, somewhat, somehow - ... Like all style advice, it's not really a "rule" to follow, but it's surprisingly difficult to avoid some of these words. I struggle with "really" and "just." It makes you work, but your language is better for it. I think many swear words fall into this category of words that are really easy to use. These lists always heavily feature strengthening modifiers, and swear words are often strengthening modifiers. Especially "fucking" which is just a really fucking versatile thing to use. I wouldn't say relying on these crutch words is a lack of knowledge or fluency, but maybe it's a lack of versatility and easy varied expressiveness. Relying on these crutch words makes it harder to be specific.
    • gen220 6y ago
      At work, we have a trillion custom slack emojis, and one is a big X with the caption “no-just”, encouraging people to refrain using just in sentences like “you just need to set up the Kafka consumer”. Now that I’m writing this out, it sounds kinda dystopian , but I actually appreciate the doublethink. I believe that pruning “just” (and cousins like “really” “very”, “it” the direct object/noun, “something”) has increased the clarity of my writing. I think that these words actually do have a use, but only in long recurring interactions where it’s clear that you don’t use these words in everyday communication. Humans are language detectives, and will detect these changes in speech as a signal of emotion. When you’re sincerely emotional about something, these normally vacuous words can be super meaningful. You can even use them in documentation (sparingly), to make a point. There’s a Tao Te Ching verse about how the wise practice “not-talking”. The implication is that normalizing silence makes words more meaningful: words only carry meaning because they contrast with silence, so if you’re talking all the time nobody will listen to you. It’s a good idea with many implications and applications, and I think it applies to these words. :)
      • trophycase 6y ago
        But "you need to set up the Kafka consumer" and "you just need to set up the Kafka consumer" have different meanings. You're not just pruning, but changing the meaning. The latter implies there is only one thing you need to do, while the former is open ended, and could imply the beginning of a set of needs. "Just" can also add emphasis. "That's stupid" and "that's just stupid" have different nuance.
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  • ggsp 6y ago
    I've always wholeheartedly agreed with Stephen Fry's view on this: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=s_osQvkeNRM https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=s_osQvkeNRM
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  • oxguy3 6y ago
    I think it's a pretty common thing for speakers of multiple languages to feel that their secondary language(s) carry less emotional weight. Random article on the subject: https://www.theguardian.com/science/blog/2017/mar/27/bad-language-why-being-bilingual-makes-swearing-easier https://www.theguardian.com/science/blog/2017/mar/27/bad-lan...
• sbarre 6y ago
  I've heard this argument before (and I tend to agree with it), but here's a counter-point I heard recently and appreciated: Eloquence and good vocabulary are important, but there is a time and place for something vulgar and basic. Just like there's a time and place for a rapier and there's also a time and place for a folding chair or a pool cue.
  • nogabebop23 6y ago
    This. People who swear do it so frequently it looses the power. It shows a lack of vocabulary more than any sort of moral failing. If you only swear rarely you get a lot more impact when you do, vs. the person who cannot avoid every 3rd word being a blue one. Also, there are some truly eloquent swears out there!
    • GuB-42 6y ago
      TV Tropes has an article on that: https://tvtropes.org/pmwiki/pmwiki.php/Main/PrecisionFStrike https://tvtropes.org/pmwiki/pmwiki.php/Main/PrecisionFStrike Contrast: https://tvtropes.org/pmwiki/pmwiki.php/Main/ClusterFBomb https://tvtropes.org/pmwiki/pmwiki.php/Main/ClusterFBomb
    • umvi 6y ago
      Words are vulgar because they are overused. It's the original definition of "vulgar" - "characteristic of or belonging to the masses." Hence, it became taboo for the upper classes to utter vulgarities, because it signaled lack of learning.
    • Cthulhu_ 6y ago
      Yup, some people swear so much it becomes a stop- or filler word, padding out a sentence unnecessarily. I mean you could insert a variation of "fuck" half a dozen times in the above sentence and it would add nothing of value to it.
      • mtrower 6y ago
        Emphasis. Am I suggesting you should do this with all your sentences? Absolutely not. However, I would certainly not read the two sentences the same. (Food for thought: spices do not generally add nutritional value to food. Yet, each has their own preference as to whether, and how heavily their food should be spiced.)
• avanai 6y ago
  How do you express yourself when you drop something heavy on your toe?
  • BenjiWiebe 6y ago
    Ouch. Or no words, long intake of breath, while hopping around on the other foot.
  • Cthulhu_ 6y ago
    https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DmNXzohQ42Q https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DmNXzohQ42Q
• Osiris 6y ago
  I also don't cuss / use profane language. However, I have found a few idioms that just don't quite translate. For example, my co-workers laugh at me for saying "for kicks and giggles" instead of "s$!#s and giggles". I've also seen people in leadership positions use a lot of foul language and it can really bring down the professionalism. As someone that doesn't use that language I find that avoid the trap of letting something slip in the wrong situation.
  • jamiek88 6y ago
    It’s really unfair but you come across as a Ned Flanders type here. I mean for kicks and giggles. You know you mean shits and giggles, they know you mean shits and giggles, the phrase makes no sense with kicks. Seems pointdiddlyointless.
    • mtrower 6y ago
      Does it make sense with "shits"? I mean really, if you stop to think about it, what does it mean to do things "for shits"? Is there a sensibly apparent meaning, or is it like the word "cool", where people attach meaning that the word doesn't formally have? FYI, where I come from both phrases are considered reasonable. Without researching the matter, it isn't even clear to me that "shits and giggles" is the original phrase from which the other is derived. I suppose it's all a product of environment in the end. I share the general sentiment though. I heard all kinds of "interesting" phrases growing up that didn't seem to be pointful. For example, people who would say "P.O.'d" in lieu of "pissed off", and become offended if you used the actual phrase. I always felt it was silly. Use the phrase or don't.
• kelnos 6y ago
  I'm glad that works for you, but the implication underneath is that no one "needs" to use swear words, and that they somehow make you a less interesting person. Again, glad that works for you, but everyone's needs differ, and making subtextual judgments about people's lack of ability to be creative without swearing is a little below the belt. Personally I tend to mainly swear as an exclamation, and try not to use them when describing things or especially people. I don't think that's specific to swear words, though... I prefer not to trash talk people using any kind of language, though I'm certainly not perfect and I do it more often than I'd like.
• EGreg 6y ago
  Willard Smith Jr! is that you?
• markdown 6y ago
  So what do you use? Gosh darn it to heck? What the frick?
  • mirimir 6y ago
    I liked "frack" and derivatives in BSG2.
    • m463 6y ago
      I think a very creative movie was actually Johnny Dangerously Farghin' ice hole.
      • mirimir 6y ago
        OK, I had to look at IMDb: > Roman Moroni: I would like to direct this to the distinguished members of the panel: You lousy cork-soakers. You have violated my farging rights. Dis somanumbatching country was founded so that the liberties of common patriotic citizens like me could not be taken away by a bunch of fargin iceholes... like yourselves.
      • mcv 6y ago
        In The Witcher games they use "ploughing" instead of "fucking", which somehow sounds more obscene to me.
• echelon 6y ago
  I love and appreciate swear words. They're incredibly important as an act of protest and defiance against the prudes and the cultural censors. The eventual normalization of swear words will show that we have won the battle.
  • klyrs 6y ago
    Once a word is normalized, speaking it is no longer cussing. ;)
• mikekchar 6y ago
  Now imagine that you did use one of those swear words. Imagine the attention you would garner. People would know that something is dreadfully wrong. My high school English teacher taught that all words can be used either skillfully or unskillfully -- swear words included. Knowing when to use the word and when not to use the word is part of having proficiency in the language. Of course, trying to arrange your life so that you don't have to use that particular proficiency does seem like something good to aim for ;-)
• saagarjha 6y ago
  I’ve chosen to give up profanity online, and it’s generally not a huge problem but I run into issues occasionally. I need to be creative when quoting people sometimes as I try to ship around their cursing. Certain phrases just lack i the right “oomph”: I might call someone impolite while really wanting to use another term.
• watersb 6y ago
  I got out of the habit of course words during the 15 years or so when my kids were growing up. Family agreed as of high school that we could all use rude language. And I have discovered I don't want to anymore. I am 50+ years old now, and I get far more satisfaction out of calling someone a "poopy-head". When necessary. Not sure why. Haven't compared notes with other adults. Did not expect this.