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Ennui: How to Overcome Chronic Boredom
- erfgh 7y agoHave a child. Problem solved for many years.
- bryanrasmussen 7y agoThere is nothing as boring as a child, have you ever tried to engage one in conversation?
- swader999 7y agoIt's different when it's your own child. You see the world through their eyes and the mundane becomes interesting again. Something like tying shoes is such a feat for a kid to achieve. They are on cloud nine for a week once they learn it. This is infectious.
- ashtonkem 7y agoAlso probably a necessary evolutionary trait to spend the resources necessary to raise a child. If our brains didn’t reward us for child raising, our species would’ve ended 1 year after it started.
- eitland 7y agoSome people have that feeling on a more general level. It seems I'm lucky that some of them work in the kindergarden where my two youngest kids go. Somewhat related: while I've always cared about others after I grew up it is much stronger now. How much of it that comes from having children an how much comes from becoming a new person because of deliberate decisions I don't know.
- jjaredsimpson 7y agoI know right, dogs are really boring too, have you ever tried to engage one in conversation?
- type0 7y agoDepends on a dog, some beagles won't shut up if you speak with them.
- james_s_tayler 7y agoGiven they say pretty whacky shit sometimes they're certainly entertaining.
- bovermyer 7y agoChildren are many things, but I would never count "boring" among them.
- bryanrasmussen 7y agomaybe I am especially burned out, and not seeing the entertainment value at the moment.
- ashtonkem 7y agoThe opposite of boredom is not entertainment. The opposite of boredom is activity. Your house being on fire is not boring, but it’s also not exactly fun either.
- losteric 7y agohuh, I really like that statement, though engagement might be more precise
- bryanrasmussen 7y agohowever the same exasperating routine with someone over a long time might be described as boring. Boring is, like many things in English, a flexible concept.
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- m463 7y agoBabies are the worst. They just sit there and smile or gurgle, but they don't know anything about mathematical proofs or kubernetes orchestration.
- imbusy111 7y agoI came to say this and you beat me to it. I haven't felt bored for a year now since mine arrived. I keep wondering how many of the psychological problems arise from people having children much much later in their lives than used to be normal.
- grp 7y ago> I keep wondering how many of the psychological problems arise from people having children much much later in their lives than used to be normal. It's so cruel. Come on, it's way more complex than that... How about sterile people? Are they all mentally ill?
- imbusy111 7y agoWhat? This is so far beyond the point I was making.
- centimeter 7y agoI suspect a ton of the psychological illnesses/problems we see today are the result of radical divergence from the behaviors we had in our ancestral evolutionary environments. It would be remarkable if the brain didn't make a bunch of assumptions on the structure of our environment when tuning stimulus sensitivity, neurotransmitter production, etc. Some examples that seem obviously concerning to me are changes in child-rearing patterns (later and fewer), changes in diet (less fat and protein, more stuff that didn't exist in the evolutionary environment at all), changes in stress exposure (mental, physical, and immune [especially parasitic]).
- rubidium 7y agoOr the big one. An extended family around help out.
- lqet 7y ago> I keep wondering how many of the psychological problems arise from people having children much much later in their lives than used to be normal This is also something I have been thinking about for a long time now. The human body, instinct and mind seems to be made to raise children. As a new parent, you have zero experience in handling a child. Yet after just a few minutes, your instinct kicks in. You somehow know how to hold the newborn, despite the fact you have never done this. You try everything to keep it warm and comfortable. You realize that your body is perfectly shaped to hold a baby with one arm, and that the baby instinctively contracts its legs for a perfect and secure fit. Despite the fact that crying babies sounded the same to you all your life, you can suddenly distinguish the crying of your own child from that of others from the beginning and from a large distance. If your baby cries, you instinctively know what the problem is. Without making a conscious decision regarding this, your absolute number one priority is suddenly to keep this child alive, whatever it takes. The thought that you would fight anything or anyone attacking your child, until the bitter end, suddenly seems completely natural. All of this can not be made clear to people without children, which is basically why parents like to talk to other parents. Raising a child certainly is one of the most extreme things a human being is capable of, and yet most parents manage it. To me, it would not at all be surprising that not using this potential may lead to serious psychological problems.
- daxfohl 7y agoI came to say the opposite! Before kids you can get out of a funk by taking some random vacation to middle of nowhere, taking a sabbatical or random time off work, spend an uninterrupted day at the library, whatever. Once the little ones come along you get about five minutes per day to solve your problem.
- ShroudedNight 7y ago> ... to solve your problem. I find that the more I focus on my problems, the stickier ennui is. It is specifically being forced to solve other people's problems that slackens its grip and allows for escape.
- Legogris 7y agoVolunteering or getting involved in some other NPO can also get at this.
- daxfohl 7y agoAgreed, but when you're forced to solve the same person's same problems day after day after day after day after day, results on your own psyche can vary.
- j65d7jdt7uy 7y agoYour child's problems are your problems. Whereas your child's joys are often ... also your problems.
- ShroudedNight 7y agoI appreciate this answer, it sounded facile at first, but hints at a significant ambiguity when calling something 'my' problem. You are absolutely correct that my daughter's problems are my problems, but their motivation and the manner in which they must be dealt with are fundamentally different from the rumination that causes [me?] ennui. Taking a fundamentally trite example: my daughter wants a pencil so that she might draw. Fundamentally, she's not concerned about me solving the 'pencil problem' utterly, for all time, but rather wants one 'now'; that is, ideally within ~30s but definitely within ~5 minutes. There is no time to dwell on the merits of STAEDTLER vs Caran d'Ache, or whether I should be provisioning a set focused on soft or hard lead, or a lifetime supply of Ticonderogas. Instead, you find the first one that you already have around that has a reasonable chance of keeping its lead intact long enough to allow her to finish her doodle and move on to the next thing. So yes, I agree with your premise, but I also argue that the problems you inherit by proxy are materially different from the ones I [at least] find cause ennui.
- zubspace 7y agoI have two younger kids and it's great and exhausting at the same time. But it did not change the motivation to do other things in the evening, when they are asleep. I still have week-long phases of ultra hyper focus and phases of absolute bat-shit boredom where I binge-watch or play everything half interesting. It's a personality thing. I have a real hard time doing something evenly across a long time. Either I give it all I have until I power-out or I leave it aside and rot. Kids don't help in this regard. The only thing which changed is that I have less time to work on personal projects. I tell myself, that I'm better at it because time got really valuable, but actually I know that I'm still the same lazy bugger I was like before.
- onemoresoop 7y agoI am like that too but to me having a child has helped me narrow down on interests and made me focused on what is important for now, the life's experience. I used to be a lot less satisfied before this stage in life, now I am really content.
- okPuppet 7y agoI don't have a child, but I have 2 nephews that I watch. And I can 100% say that kind of boredom is just the mind numbing repetition of doing stuff thats frankly just not that interesting. Then having to do it over and over again really starts to wear you out. Especially from the ages of like 2 to 6 is tough in my opinion.
- Kye 7y agoPlease do not inflict your problems on people who can't consent to join them.
- exit 6y agoabsolutely this, https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Antinatalism https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Antinatalism
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- hombre_fatal 7y agoHaving children because you're bored has to be among the most self-centered, repulsive thing humans do. Not that it's you're doing for just pointing it out. I actually admire how much a single HN comment could disgust me. Though I will also say, one of the amazing feats of humans is our ability to become incredible people despite being born to parents that had no business having children.
- viklove 7y ago> Having children [...] has to be among the most self-centered [...] thing humans do. Yes.
- narrator 7y agoThat selfish act of having children by all your ancestors is the reason you exist.
- lqet 7y agoCould you elaborate on how giving life to a human being and dedicating the next 20 years of your own life (and the major part of your income) on bringing the child up is self-centered and repulsive? How on earth can you derive the parenting quality from the reason the child was conceived? What, in your opinion, is a non-repulsive way or reason to get a child? Until not that long ago, the overwhelming majority of children was born because their parents wanted to have sex, and quite possibly lots of it. Does this also disgust you?
- viklove 7y ago> dedicating the next 20 years of your own life (and the major part of your income) Dedicating time and money does not make something unselfish, so this can't really be used as justification to show that having a child is not selfish. We can start with a lower bar -- having children is definitely not selfless, right? Most people have children to give their life purpose and meaning, or because they believe they will be good parents and want to see if they can raise a child that will find success in the world. So at the very least, I think we can agree that a parent gains something by virtue of having a child, and they have a child so that they can benefit in this way. Ergo, having a child is not selfless, we can at least agree on that, right? Next we can move onto showing why it is actually quite selfish. Let's just look up the word "selfish" to find some footing: > (of a person, action, or motive) lacking consideration for others; concerned chiefly with one's own personal profit or pleasure. So if I can demonstrate that the parents lacks consideration for others when having a child, that should sufficiently demonstrate that the parents are acting selfishly, yes? So who benefits (other than the parents) from the child being born? I can only think of one party you may suggest -- the child. But the child has not been born yet, so how can the parent be acting out of consideration for their unborn child? Can you act in the interest of something that does not exist? This is where we get into the matter of opinion. Can an unborn child have desires? If no, then the parent is definitely acting selfishly. The only one who desires the child be born is the parent, so this is by definition selfish. If yes, then you may say that the child desires to be born, and the parent is acting out of consideration for this desire. But if you are in this camp, you must also admit there is a chance the child desires not to be born, yes? And if this is the case, then by bringing this child into the world without first consulting their desires, I would argue the parent is acting selfishly. They made an assumption about their child's desires, and acted without confirming them -- giving their child no say in the matter. This sounds quite selfish to me. So I think this conclusively demonstrates that having a child is indeed selfish, would you contest this? The only reasonable way to contest this argument, in my opinion of course, is by taking the religious stance and somehow "speaking" to your unborn child (through god?) to first determine if they want to be born. This is impossible to reproduce though, so it's impossible to say if anyone has ever done this, and therefore I won't bother addressing it. Of course, I'm not saying having children is "repulsive," but it's definitely selfish.
- m463 7y agoHow do I learn to get up early? "Have a child"
- nicbou 7y agoUsually, it happens to me when I'm mentally exhausted, or when I do nothing for a long period of time. Here are a few tricks that work for me: * Don't force yourself to get things done. You need rest, not shame. * Get properly bored. Mindlessly consuming content just makes it last longer. * Do something easy and different. I usually run myself a bath or go for a walk. It's enough to get me off the computer and to get ideas flowing again. * Get some rest. Write this evening off, and relax for a bit. The rest will wait.
- artemonster 7y agoyes! this! Everything that you list here is spot on and are things that have helped me.
- asdfman123 7y agoI think they titled this article "chronic boredom" instead of "existential ennui" so they wouldn't scare as many people away.
- imbnwa 7y agoAmericans hate "big words", lets not forget
- nicbou 7y agoOh and I forgot: * Put a few things back in their place. I don't know why, but it's a surprisingly effective way to get out of a rut. Usually, I end up cleaning the whole flat, even though I hate cleaning.
- DantesKite 7y agoOh interesting. A bit dark, but I've noticed many prisoners have a set routine of constantly cleaning their surroundings. Possibly because it gives them something to do. As for myself, I have noticed there's something calming about moving things where they belong (even if initially it doesn't seem very exciting). But it's easy to forget. Thank you for the reminder.
- arpa 7y agoEnnui sounds like a boring old depression
- freehunter 7y agoThe difference tends to be ennui is caused by lack of stimulation where depression is caused by chemical imbalances in the brain.
- roywiggins 7y agoMaybe, but lack of motivation unable to enjoy things you previously liked disinterest in the future constant low energy Are classic signs of clinical depression. Nobody gets diagnosed with clinical depression based on brain chemistry, they get diagnosed on symptoms. And these symptoms are basically the same ones.
- dkersten 6y agoSounds like over stimulation too. If you’re constantly stimulated by high dopamine, low effort activities (eg social media) then your base level of dopamine is so high that mundane or high effort activities don’t provide enough dopamine to seem worthwhile to your body. Then motivation and concentration on these activities becomes very very hard.
- freehunter 6y agoThat would be a diagnostic failure. Treating someone with anti-depressants when they do not have clinical depression could ruin their life, even end their life (suicide is a side effect of many anti-depressant medications).
- roywiggins 6y agoDepression is diagnosed based on clinical symptoms, not brain chemistry. Read the list of symptoms from the DSM V and compare- "chronic ennui" as defined in the article would get you most of the way there. https://www.psycom.net/depression-definition-dsm-5-diagnostic-criteria/ https://www.psycom.net/depression-definition-dsm-5-diagnosti...
- paulcole 7y agoMaybe it’s not always something to overcome? Sometimes there is no point to doing something you used to enjoy. There’s nothing wrong with acknowledging the pointlessness of something. You don’t always have to be doing something and you don’t always have to be happy.
- sschueller 7y agoNot to be confused with the dockless mini cars standing in the way everywhere from Ennu [1]. [1] https://enuu.ch/ https://enuu.ch/
- daxfohl 7y agoThis makes me think of every role Bill Murray has played in the last 20 years.
- viburnum 7y agoThe recommendations in the article are just a bunch of generic advice for whatever is in style right now. Zero evidence any of it will work. It might actually make you feel worse.
- starkd 7y agoLooks the same as depression to me. Though I wonder if referring to it as ennui might make it more manageable. Depression has suicidal connotations, and if perceived as such can lead to a downward spiral.
- dsubburam 7y agoAristotle's conception of eudaimonia, happiness consisting in "activity of the rational soul, conducted in accordance with virtue or excellence"[1] helps here. Lack of such activity perhaps leads to ennui. Not entirely in the individual's hands, as he goes on to say "Someone who is friendless, childless, powerless, weak, and ugly will simply not be able to find many opportunities for virtuous activity over a long period of time, and what little he can accomplish will not be of great merit. To some extent, then, living well requires good fortune"[2]. Surprised I didn't see this mentioned in the article. An adjacent, perhaps more controversial, formulation of this point: Meaninglessness can be countered by the voluntary adoption of responsibility. (e.g. having children) [1] https://plato.stanford.edu/entries/aristotle/ https://plato.stanford.edu/entries/aristotle/ [2] https://plato.stanford.edu/entries/aristotle-ethics/ https://plato.stanford.edu/entries/aristotle-ethics/
- amelius 7y ago> "Someone who is friendless, childless, powerless, weak, and ugly will simply not be able to find many opportunities for virtuous activity over a long period of time, ..." But nowadays you can always become a coder ...
- Chyzwar 7y agoyou need mental power, intelligence to become a coder.
- elldoubleyew 7y agoClearly, you haven't met many coders
- philipov 6y agoThose many coders you are referring to don't get existential satisfaction out of programming. Programming is just like any other creative medium in that respect. Anyone can learn to write, and some can even make a career writing professionally, but a lot fewer spend their free time writing for fun. The more lucrative a career in an art can be, the more people there will be who have no interest in it beyond a way of making money.
- ConradKilroy 7y agoNot to gatekeep but this comment was so profound, I cried. "This makes you realize that you're taking color(vision) for granted. There are people who not only are colorblind but are completely blind-- blind from birth. And I'm just sitting here, like, "Oh, I'm so bored." And I'm surrounded by colors!" -Michael from VSauce Source: YouTubers React to Colorblind Man Sees Purple for the First Time https://youtu.be/FANiL2dPCCg?t=530 https://youtu.be/FANiL2dPCCg?t=530 Ennui is bullshit. You don't get the privilege/right to say, "I'm bored." Ever.
- j65d7jdt7uy 7y agoWhat if you're colorblind?
- SketchySeaBeast 7y agoJust because some people have it "worse" doesn't mean anything. If that were the case we can never be sad / lonely / scared / depressed / disappointed because we're not a lone caveman starving to death. Yes we can. Every experience is from your own perspective. You can appreciate that others have a worse time of it and still feel your emotions. You're not denying someone else of their feelings if you have your own.
- dkersten 6y agoDisagree. Boredom is an important part of life. We need boredom to become creative.
- ConradKilroy 6y ago"The day you realize that nothing can stop you, because you are a MAGIC SKELETON packed with MEAT and animated with ELECTRICITY and IMAGINATION. You have a cave in your face full of sharp bones and five tentacles at the end of each arm. YOU CAN DO ANYTHING, MAGIC SKELETON" Source: https://twitter.com/ChuckWendig/status/1029345631578587137 https://twitter.com/ChuckWendig/status/1029345631578587137
- _sbrk 7y ago1. Have hobbies 2. Get married 3. Have kids 2 & 3 cancel 1 out, and you're never "bored" again.
- mr_toad 7y agoYou may not be bored, but you can certainly get tired of being stuck in a rut, which is more like ennui.
- roywiggins 7y agoThis overlaps like 80% with clinical depression as currently defined, no? How does this entire article not include "anhedonia", which is literally the inability to enjoy things you previously enjoyed- and is a classic marker for clinical depression.
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- 1996 7y agoAlternative explanation: maybe our medical classification changed the label for something the ancient greeks found valuable, leading to a semantic slide (ataraxia => anhedonia => depression) as it is no longer appropriate in the current society for whatever reason. Maybe people feel better when their are busybodies because culture/media feeds the message they should be unhappy if they don't do something or help others. Maybe society couldn't function if most people felt no desire to have kids or work besides the minimum required for shelter and subsistence. The post below yours at the moment calls for having a kid, which is both taking a responsibility and according to most parents the equivalent of finding a greater purpose that yourself. It strikes me also as very convenient bargain for a society that couldn't function if the population and the economy was always shrinking. Do you really think most people would bother waking up to go to work if they had no kids but a place of dwelling and food on the table (say through UBI or anything)? The creative hackers, maybe, but I think most people would find videogames and drinking with friend quite sufficient. The post pandemic will be a great experiment to check if the price elasticity of work has been permanently altered by a few weeks of isolation, and reflection.
- Sophistifunk 7y agoSociety? You think the desire for children is something cooked up by evil capitalists? How exactly did humans not go extinct before 1800?
- roywiggins 7y agoStrictly speaking it didn't matter much what people wanted back then. Babies happened regardless. Women had very little say in whether they had babies. Family planning is very new.
- decebalus1 7y agoSigh... I hate this type of content. This is just trying to use an archaic term for something which is basically a symptom of a current mental health pandemic (depression). I feel the same vibe as with borrowed concepts like Hygge or other crap with the only purpose of selling something or driving traffic. Pseudo-scientific bullshit is what it is, half-baked superficial advice with a protestant work ethic and self-sufficiency tone. Hey, we found a subtle difference between some terms so here's some free subpar mental health advice from an anonymous unqualified internet entity. Pls like and share. Cheap self-help porn targeted at overachievers. > The term ‘ennui’ is often used interchangeably with ‘boredom’. However, various distinctions have been drawn between these two terms, and in general, the main difference between boredom and ennui is that ‘boredom’ refers to a mental state that is short-tern and driven primarily by situational and environmental factors, while ‘ennui’ refers to a mental state that is chronic and driven primarily by dispositional (personality-based) factors. so... chronic boredom? Shit, just talk to a professional, don't read online articles about how to deal with your mental health challenges. Just reach out and ask for help. The stakes are too high. If you feel chronically bored, you're most likely heading towards burnout or you're depressed but not realizing it yet. The tone of the article is very shallow wrt to depression. It more nuanced than ' it’s possible for someone to suffer from depression but not ennui, as in the case of someone who experiences deep chronic sadness and lack of energy, but not the existential boredom that characterizes ennui'.
- Zenst 7y ago> Cheap self-help porn targeted at overachievers That does somewhat sum up things. For me, many of these self-help things are there to self-help the author more than anybody else. But the whole aspect of boredom leading into depression is not wrong, when we keep raising the bar for what we define of happiness, we only increase the scope of what is boredom and deny our brains it's dopamine hits. Over time, we start to redefine ourselves and the long roads of self loathing and useless start to divide the mind down paths that serve no useful destination. For me, redefining happiness and finding enjoyment in the small things in life works better than any single bit of advice I would give a younger self of mine. Others will have their own ways, but everybody is different. Advise, however great is like a pair of shoes - one size does not fit all perfectly.
- firefoxd 7y agoThe article makes it sound like a medical term, but I think Ennui is "boredom" in French... I often recommend to switching from a consumption mind to a producing one. Instead of looking for the next Netflix show that will cure your boredom, or for a person to entertain you, make something. Of course, this is easier said than done. Boredom doesn't disappear because you decided to do something. One issue is that boredom is developed over a long period of time, to the point that it becomes a habit. Once you decide to do something about it, expect it to take just as long to part with it. You can still watch your Netflix show, but make a schedule for your boredom breaking habit. Every evening at 6 write for 30 minutes. Try to run a mile in the morning without any earphones. Practice a musical instruments once a day. Read a book for 30 minutes a day. Nothing to drastically change your lifestyle, but over the course of a month, these habits replace your boredom.
- badtuple 7y agoDon't forget the opposite. Some people have the opposite problem. If all you do is produce/create then you're going to burnout and feel like you don't care anymore. Consuming gives you new ideas on what to produce and enthusiasm about what you could create. You can't produce without consuming, and you likely won't be satisfied just consuming indefinitely.
- munificent 7y agoThis article is not very good. Any article on ennui this long that does not mention depression at all is clearly not thinking deeply or widely about the topic at hand. I do think there is a good article about ennui that could have been written. And, in particular, how to distinguish it from depression. Both feature anhedonia (life is not pleasurable), monotony, dissatisfaction, and a vague sadness. To me, the key difference is drive. With depression, it is as if your own motor is turned off. Everything you do brings you no pleasure, you can't imagine them bringing you pleasure, and you don't even have the energy to try. Both the world is empty and you are too. With ennui, the inner component is different. The world feels boring and unsatisfying, but the internal drive to fix that problem is still present, just unguided. You know you aren't happy and want to do something about it, you just don't know what. Ennui is restless where depression is inert. This makes it a relatively easier problem to solve because it's essentially external. The feeling is caused by your actions and not a fundamental chemical imbalance. Addressing it requires understanding your own values and motivations. What gives your life a sense of meaning? Look back on days that you felt were particularly gratifying—the ones you want to reflect on on your deathbed. What made them that way? What did they have in common? Often, ennui comes from trying to replicate the same actions that brought us joy in the past without realizing that the context has changed. So there is a generalization step. It's not that doing X was meaningful. It's that doing X because it meant Y was. For example, I used to be a game developer. After about six years, I was pretty burned out. It wasn't as fun anymore. I kept doing it but felt more and more ennui. Why did the same activity that used to make me feel gratified no longer do so? It's because the underlying context—my own internal state—changed. A big part of the gratification came from: * Learning a new domain and seeing my skill in it improve. * Proving to myself that I could accomplish shipping a real AAA game. After several years, my knowledge had plateaued, and I had already proven to myself several times over that I could do it. Those aspects were gone. What I took away from it is that internal growth—learning new skills—is important for me to feel that something is meaningful. Once I "max out" in a domain, it is no longer gratifying for me. This may not be true for others where their satisfaction comes more from providing value to others, or demonstrating mastery. I value those too, but in the absence of learning, they aren't enough.
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- dammitcoetzee 7y agoGreat another thing to self diagnose, except now you can sound pretentious too. Most people, myself included, don't have anything truly wrong with them other than bad habits and bad discipline that will just take a year or more time horizon to struggle and work through until resolved. It's not that they're not real. I just don't like the idea of adopting something as a title or ownership "I have depression/I am depressed" vs "I am experiencing depression as a symptom from a lack of exercise and an abuse of the internet and entertainment." Also therapy is more available than ever and talking to a real person is guaranteed healthier than reading WebMD. If you can't afford a therapist talk to your friends. It takes a bit of courage to admit your feelings but everyone has experienced these feelings to some degree and likely has great advice. Even finding out, for example, that it took one friend a few years to get over something is helpful since it means you don't have to beat yourself up about not getting over it today.
- zerr 7y agoThis article is not optimized for people with ennui.
- dontbenebby 7y agoJust letting yourself be less connected helps IMO. I ditched Netflix and listen to podcasts for example. I tend to not want to sit and do nothing while listening so I clean more or end up going for a walk.
- k__ 7y agoThe Corona crisis really helped with my Ennui problem.
- type0 7y ago> while ‘ennui’ refers to a mental state that is chronic and driven primarily by dispositional (personality-based) factors. Anecdotally I would think it's more prevalent in people with narcissistic personality traits during depression (speaking of friends here not acquaintances), maybe it even could be medication dependent . Off course it ought to be more common but maybe not expressed in other personality types, a depressed person with schizoid traits probably wouldn't even complain in a first place, so who knows.
- jungletime 7y agoWanted: Arch Nemesis
- adelHBN 7y ago"Someone who is friendless, childless, powerless, weak, and ugly will simply not be able to find many opportunities for virtuous activity over a long period of time, ..." This is B.S. I don't believe in categorical statements like this. Life is not a constant. A person may be friendless, powerless, weak and even childless for two decades. But all of that can suddenly change. As for ugly, I've seen the ugliest people marry the most beautiful people. And some of these ugly people were total shy, introverts. So if you are ugly like me, and if you're down in your life like I've been at times when my startup failed, be patient and continue on with life. It will get better. And for love of all that is holy, stay away from these sorts of nonsense absolutisms.
- Galaco 7y agoIn my own personal experience, some aspects of that list may be indicative of, or lead to mental health issues that may indeed have a substantial negative effect on the ability to seek out such opportunity. Irregardless of the truth each aspect of that statement, its commonly understood that beautiful people have easier access to opportunity than ugly people; we as humans are biased based on appearance.
- more-entropy 7y agoI'm sorry, but this is complete bullshit, written by person who have no idea of what boredom, depression, apathy is.