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Your original comment states that it is “dysfunctional to have friends at work”. We absolutely disagree.

pdimitar 7y ago
Seems like we do then. In my eyes it's something that shouldn't be encouraged but also shouldn't be resisted if it happens naturally. I've observed a lot of Stockholm syndrome in people in offices and that made me believe many are forcing relationships at work so at to make their workplace more tolerable. I could be wrong though.
- freejazz 7y ago
  Yeah... it's called being polite and sociable
  - pdimitar 7y ago
    Let's not conflate being professional (which includes being polite) with actually making friends in the office. Very different things.
    - freejazz 7y ago
      Right, that's why I included being 'sociable' as well!
      - pdimitar 7y ago
        Ah well, at this point I believe I made the wrong impression. I am actually quite an ongoing guy and easily bond with people. HOWEVER, when in a work setting I prefer to grab the problem at hand by the horns and start wrestling it. I like small talk -- maybe even too much! -- and that's exactly why I gradually learned to deflect most such attempts by colleagues so as not to be in an awkward position later after I have bonded with 10+ people but got zero work done. :D You know?
        freejazz 7y ago
        No, I don't know. I don't have trouble navigating being personable to my coworkers and getting work done. In fact, it's kind of hard to imagine how being personable gets in the way of productivity, when I'd imagine the opposite to be true - that is to say a lack of personableness amongst co-workers in an office would lead to inefficiencies. I'm not sure how being personable, to you, means bonding to the extent that nothing got done.
        pdimitar 7y ago
        Sigh, not one joke gets past you. Thanks for the discussion.
        freejazz 7y ago
        Lol is this you being sociable???
        wolco 7y ago
        I've seen being too personable get in the way of productivity. - The employee who spends the day having extra long visits around the office. - The employee who joins every social event team possible so much they are never doing their core role - The helpful senior dev who spends all day teaching a junior only to avoid the bug queue and push their work to other seniors - The company meeting where everyone listens as Sally is given an above and beyond reward for their work on a project everyone else did but Sally. Sally is very personable with the CEO Let's just get our work done.

Seems like we do then. In my eyes it's something that shouldn't be encouraged but also shouldn't be resisted if it happens naturally. I've observed a lot of Stockholm syndrome in people in offices and that made me believe many are forcing relationships at work so at to make their workplace more tolerable. I could be wrong though.

freejazz 7y ago
Yeah... it's called being polite and sociable
- pdimitar 7y ago
  Let's not conflate being professional (which includes being polite) with actually making friends in the office. Very different things.
  - freejazz 7y ago
    Right, that's why I included being 'sociable' as well!
    - pdimitar 7y ago
      Ah well, at this point I believe I made the wrong impression. I am actually quite an ongoing guy and easily bond with people. HOWEVER, when in a work setting I prefer to grab the problem at hand by the horns and start wrestling it. I like small talk -- maybe even too much! -- and that's exactly why I gradually learned to deflect most such attempts by colleagues so as not to be in an awkward position later after I have bonded with 10+ people but got zero work done. :D You know?
      - freejazz 7y ago
        No, I don't know. I don't have trouble navigating being personable to my coworkers and getting work done. In fact, it's kind of hard to imagine how being personable gets in the way of productivity, when I'd imagine the opposite to be true - that is to say a lack of personableness amongst co-workers in an office would lead to inefficiencies. I'm not sure how being personable, to you, means bonding to the extent that nothing got done.
        pdimitar 7y ago
        Sigh, not one joke gets past you. Thanks for the discussion.
        freejazz 7y ago
        Lol is this you being sociable???
        wolco 7y ago
        I've seen being too personable get in the way of productivity. - The employee who spends the day having extra long visits around the office. - The employee who joins every social event team possible so much they are never doing their core role - The helpful senior dev who spends all day teaching a junior only to avoid the bug queue and push their work to other seniors - The company meeting where everyone listens as Sally is given an above and beyond reward for their work on a project everyone else did but Sally. Sally is very personable with the CEO Let's just get our work done.