I spent DECADES looking for a partner (not just a compatible female). Someone who had a similarly difficult upbringing (difficulty literally surviving it), whic

I spent DECADES looking for a partner (not just a compatible female). Someone who had a similarly difficult upbringing (difficulty literally surviving it), which colors our standards for happiness or just what's "good enough" and what's qualified as beauty and peace. We are NOT similar in our professions or hobbies, but it works. We got married after 40, after dating increasingly over a decade (we knew each other for a long time) so there's that.