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Babies are basically a bag of screams and shit for the first few months of life. It's often a source of sadness and disappointment to parents that they don't i

Babies are basically a bag of screams and shit for the first few months of life. It's often a source of sadness and disappointment to parents that they don't immediately bond with their babies. It's the first advice I always give to new parents -- "Don't feel bad if you don't immediately fall in love with your baby." For me, it wasn't really until they were 6 months old or so that I enjoyed spending time with either of my kids.

Disruptive_Dave 7y ago
Had my first 4 months ago and could not wait until she started showing signs of awareness and personality. Luckily that happened within 2 months and she's now a ridiculous goofball.
tw04 7y ago
The further you get away from the baby stage, the more you romanticize it. I REMEMBER my daughter being the most amazing thing in the world from the very first day. I KNOW that wasn't the case and made a mental note of the fact that I, like you, wasn't bonded until ~6 months. Before that she was obviously my daughter but I didn't have that "I'd do anything for this child" feeling until much later. If you asked me today how I FEEL, I'd say it was that way from day one. But I know for a fact that wasn't the case originally.
- saiya-jin 7y ago
  Hmm, I guess I was lucky, I had this from first second. Maybe being with my wife during delivery and helping as much as I could (plus cutting the cord) helped. Don't know TBH. I would give up my life to protect him. My dreams and goals became meaningless (and still are, although its only 2+ months now). They will come back of course eventually, in some amended form. Or maybe our baby wasn't "basically a bag of screams and shit" helped. Not that those aren't present, but this isn't the dominant feature that I think of when thinking about him.
olau 7y ago
Was the opposite for me. Having a warm newborn nap on my (unclothed) chest was really a special thing. Yes, they're fickle and a lot of hard work. Even if you do things right, there's going to be a decent amount of screams you just have to endure. And the lack of communicative feedback, except for screams. They're little mysteries.

Disruptive_Dave 7y ago

Had my first 4 months ago and could not wait until she started showing signs of awareness and personality. Luckily that happened within 2 months and she's now a ridiculous goofball.

tw04 7y ago

The further you get away from the baby stage, the more you romanticize it. I REMEMBER my daughter being the most amazing thing in the world from the very first day. I KNOW that wasn't the case and made a mental note of the fact that I, like you, wasn't bonded until ~6 months. Before that she was obviously my daughter but I didn't have that "I'd do anything for this child" feeling until much later. If you asked me today how I FEEL, I'd say it was that way from day one. But I know for a fact that wasn't the case originally.

saiya-jin 7y ago
Hmm, I guess I was lucky, I had this from first second. Maybe being with my wife during delivery and helping as much as I could (plus cutting the cord) helped. Don't know TBH. I would give up my life to protect him. My dreams and goals became meaningless (and still are, although its only 2+ months now). They will come back of course eventually, in some amended form. Or maybe our baby wasn't "basically a bag of screams and shit" helped. Not that those aren't present, but this isn't the dominant feature that I think of when thinking about him.

olau 7y ago

Was the opposite for me. Having a warm newborn nap on my (unclothed) chest was really a special thing. Yes, they're fickle and a lot of hard work. Even if you do things right, there's going to be a decent amount of screams you just have to endure. And the lack of communicative feedback, except for screams. They're little mysteries.