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My experience with my son was the opposite. He was largely unresponsive through the first month of his life, and then very suddenly developed the ability and se

My experience with my son was the opposite. He was largely unresponsive through the first month of his life, and then very suddenly developed the ability and seeming desire to mimic smiles around one month. And I was there for all of the first seventy two hours

empath75 7y ago
Babies are basically a bag of screams and shit for the first few months of life. It's often a source of sadness and disappointment to parents that they don't immediately bond with their babies. It's the first advice I always give to new parents -- "Don't feel bad if you don't immediately fall in love with your baby." For me, it wasn't really until they were 6 months old or so that I enjoyed spending time with either of my kids.
- Disruptive_Dave 7y ago
  Had my first 4 months ago and could not wait until she started showing signs of awareness and personality. Luckily that happened within 2 months and she's now a ridiculous goofball.
- tw04 7y ago
  The further you get away from the baby stage, the more you romanticize it. I REMEMBER my daughter being the most amazing thing in the world from the very first day. I KNOW that wasn't the case and made a mental note of the fact that I, like you, wasn't bonded until ~6 months. Before that she was obviously my daughter but I didn't have that "I'd do anything for this child" feeling until much later. If you asked me today how I FEEL, I'd say it was that way from day one. But I know for a fact that wasn't the case originally.
  - saiya-jin 7y ago
    Hmm, I guess I was lucky, I had this from first second. Maybe being with my wife during delivery and helping as much as I could (plus cutting the cord) helped. Don't know TBH. I would give up my life to protect him. My dreams and goals became meaningless (and still are, although its only 2+ months now). They will come back of course eventually, in some amended form. Or maybe our baby wasn't "basically a bag of screams and shit" helped. Not that those aren't present, but this isn't the dominant feature that I think of when thinking about him.
- olau 7y ago
  Was the opposite for me. Having a warm newborn nap on my (unclothed) chest was really a special thing. Yes, they're fickle and a lot of hard work. Even if you do things right, there's going to be a decent amount of screams you just have to endure. And the lack of communicative feedback, except for screams. They're little mysteries.

empath75 7y ago

Babies are basically a bag of screams and shit for the first few months of life. It's often a source of sadness and disappointment to parents that they don't immediately bond with their babies. It's the first advice I always give to new parents -- "Don't feel bad if you don't immediately fall in love with your baby." For me, it wasn't really until they were 6 months old or so that I enjoyed spending time with either of my kids.

Disruptive_Dave 7y ago
Had my first 4 months ago and could not wait until she started showing signs of awareness and personality. Luckily that happened within 2 months and she's now a ridiculous goofball.
tw04 7y ago
The further you get away from the baby stage, the more you romanticize it. I REMEMBER my daughter being the most amazing thing in the world from the very first day. I KNOW that wasn't the case and made a mental note of the fact that I, like you, wasn't bonded until ~6 months. Before that she was obviously my daughter but I didn't have that "I'd do anything for this child" feeling until much later. If you asked me today how I FEEL, I'd say it was that way from day one. But I know for a fact that wasn't the case originally.
- saiya-jin 7y ago
  Hmm, I guess I was lucky, I had this from first second. Maybe being with my wife during delivery and helping as much as I could (plus cutting the cord) helped. Don't know TBH. I would give up my life to protect him. My dreams and goals became meaningless (and still are, although its only 2+ months now). They will come back of course eventually, in some amended form. Or maybe our baby wasn't "basically a bag of screams and shit" helped. Not that those aren't present, but this isn't the dominant feature that I think of when thinking about him.
olau 7y ago
Was the opposite for me. Having a warm newborn nap on my (unclothed) chest was really a special thing. Yes, they're fickle and a lot of hard work. Even if you do things right, there's going to be a decent amount of screams you just have to endure. And the lack of communicative feedback, except for screams. They're little mysteries.