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> Adulting in 2020 is child's play. Weirdly taking care of kids is not substantially more convenient nowadays. It's hard to compare, because most of us haven't
by lordnacho 7y ago
> Adulting in 2020 is child's play.
Weirdly taking care of kids is not substantially more convenient nowadays. It's hard to compare, because most of us haven't had kids with a 25 year gap, but I do know a guy who has done just that.
Tech is a double edged sword with kids. You can throw a tablet at them to placate them for a while, but often it leads to the kid being difficult when you take it away.
You still need to sit with them to put them to sleep, nobody seems to have made an app that buys back that time. Again, tech sort of looks like it will work ("I'll put on a soothing melody from YouTube") but often it backfires somehow.
Kids misbehaving? Where's the app to fix that?
And then there's the whole education side of things, where tech promises a lot more than it delivers. The only things I find useful are Khan Academy and various times table type apps. They're just straight replacements for a person, which is great. Anything more complex, I'm very sceptical of.
- chrisco255 7y agoHaha, yeah I wouldn't say parenting is child's play. Pretty sure that's an NP Hard problem.
- mbeex 7y agoAnother guy here (28 year gap): While I agree with the general statement (past/today), the specific situation (children with high age differences and the same parent) is different. I am much more relaxed then 30 years ago. Some things have settled in terms of economic circumstances, own ambitions etc. Some work against (health), but if not extreme, the positive factors outweigh the negative. Also, dealing with technology is probably more mature. We have a 10-year old boy and a 4-year old daughter without smartphone, devices are our own and are only used together with us. It causes no problems. Probably it helps to have the separation between an offline world before and an online world afterwards in one's own history, as well as the strategies to lead a life under both premises.
- dr_dshiv 7y agoWorking on a vibrating hot water bottle to get my toddler to self soothe. The dream is a sleepbox. You know, close the lid and kids are asleep.
- Retric 7y agoA friend trained his kids to go to sleep while he held them and danced to heavy metal music. I was shockingly effective and so far from the classic routine I really think consistency is the important factor.
- dr_dshiv 7y agoI like that concept. Don't try to calm them to sleep -- expose them to a higher intensity stimulus than their own urge to cry -- sensorally overwhelmed, but comforted in safety, they fall asleep.
- paulryanrogers 7y agoWhile it may work for some hearing damage can be permanent, both for the child and adult. Though I suspect shushing in their ear is based on a similar phenomenon.
- stallmanite 7y agoI do the same thing with loud house/techno/trap music. Works like a charm
- PaulDavisThe1st 7y ago>You still need to sit with them to put them to sleep, nobody seems to have made an app that buys back that time. I don't know why anyone would want to buy back that time. I might even pay to be able to do that again.
- disqard 7y agoThanks, I was about to write that in response.