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absolutely, same boat. I have to think that my kids just not having to listen to their parents constantly fight about money like I did has to go a long way. Goi

absolutely, same boat. I have to think that my kids just not having to listen to their parents constantly fight about money like I did has to go a long way. Going to the store with friends and your parents have to pay with food stamps carries a certain stigma. I had good parents who always worked hard (not necessarily smart) and did the best they could for us, so I have no other complaints but I was definitely very aware of being poor.

tropo 7y ago
Fighting over money is because of personality and disagreement, not the amount of money. You can fight at any level of wealth. For the rich, spouses can fight over the choice between buying a pro sports team and buying a private island, or between buying a customized 747-8 and buying a made-to-order yacht with helipad. For the poor, spouses can be in full agreement that dinner is soup made with ketchup packets, slugs, and dandelions.
- wonderwonder 7y ago
  If you think that a couple arguing over which sports team to buy is the same as arguing in frustration over how to make rent is the same, you are incorrect. Stress leads to arguments and people not being at their best; there are few things more stressful than not having the funds for basic necessities. The solution is not for the poor to eat slugs...
lopmotr 7y ago
Why were they fighting if they were good parents? My parents were poor but didn't fight. They just didn't buy much and they both accepted that and tried hard to improve things.
- ben_w 7y ago
  “Fighting” can cover a large range of actions, from arguing to violence. If it’s the former, I can understand — e.g. frustration from a personality difference where one of them wanted to spend money on something nice so that life wasn’t just an endless pointless slog of dull grey, while the other wanted to save the money for an emergency.
- wonderwonder 7y ago
  Is your comment really that because my parents argued about money they were bad parents?
- ohyeshedid 7y ago
  Your parents likely fought more than you'd be aware of, in the argumentative sense. Unless you're trying to claim you were raised in the first household in history with absolutely no conflict? Your binary viewpoints belie the superiority you're projecting.

tropo 7y ago

Fighting over money is because of personality and disagreement, not the amount of money. You can fight at any level of wealth. For the rich, spouses can fight over the choice between buying a pro sports team and buying a private island, or between buying a customized 747-8 and buying a made-to-order yacht with helipad. For the poor, spouses can be in full agreement that dinner is soup made with ketchup packets, slugs, and dandelions.

wonderwonder 7y ago
If you think that a couple arguing over which sports team to buy is the same as arguing in frustration over how to make rent is the same, you are incorrect. Stress leads to arguments and people not being at their best; there are few things more stressful than not having the funds for basic necessities. The solution is not for the poor to eat slugs...

lopmotr 7y ago

Why were they fighting if they were good parents? My parents were poor but didn't fight. They just didn't buy much and they both accepted that and tried hard to improve things.

ben_w 7y ago
“Fighting” can cover a large range of actions, from arguing to violence. If it’s the former, I can understand — e.g. frustration from a personality difference where one of them wanted to spend money on something nice so that life wasn’t just an endless pointless slog of dull grey, while the other wanted to save the money for an emergency.
wonderwonder 7y ago
Is your comment really that because my parents argued about money they were bad parents?
ohyeshedid 7y ago
Your parents likely fought more than you'd be aware of, in the argumentative sense. Unless you're trying to claim you were raised in the first household in history with absolutely no conflict? Your binary viewpoints belie the superiority you're projecting.