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I imagine it's different, if for example one first gets a child that survives, then another, and then, the 3rd time, there's a miscarriage. Then, that's easier
by HappyDreamer 7y ago
I imagine it's different, if for example one first gets a child that survives, then another, and then, the 3rd time, there's a miscarriage. Then, that's easier to get over, because you can be happy for and focus on the children you have already?
Compared to if one has tried just once, and that was a miscarriage.
- teekert 7y agoThat sounds very plausible indeed.
- andrewaylett 7y agoPlausible, but not necessarily true. Our fifth and sixth babies miscarried. Our seventh had his second birthday the other week, and it's still really hard for me to finish typing this comment and post it.
- saiya-jin 7y agoI can tell you that miscarriage messes up women that already have a kid pretty badly, we have few couples around who went though it. Of course I can't compare it to same woman without any baby at all, but this perception of "focus on positive, look you already have one healthy baby" is outsider's perspective. Kid of best effort to soothe the unsoothable.
- nikkikayauthor 7y agoI am that first scenario. I had 2 healthy kids followed by 2 miscarriages. I can’t speak to easier or harder, but I do know that even the 2 losses I had in quick succession (one in March and one in August of the same year) affected me in profoundly different ways. I think they’re all different and terrible in their own way.
- HappyDreamer 7y agoI'm sorry to hear that. Thanks for replying. I think I will never know how that feels like.