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Paul Graham: don’t hire anyone with children
- byoung2 7y agoThat may be illegal, depending on where your company operates.
- SteveGerencser 7y agoI was super kicked back and mellow until I got a kid. Then I kicked worklife into high gear because I had a little mouth to feed and clothe. Kid got older, moved out, got married and I kicked back into mellow man. Now we have a grandbaby in our lives and I'm back at work being more motivated to be more efficient and productive than ever so I can have the time to spend with her. Sort of exactly the opposite of the article.
- jonstewart 7y agoYes, pg succumbs to the anecdotal fallacy with his conclusion here. He is filthy rich. When someone who’s filthy rich has kids, I’d expect a bimodal outcome: outsource child raising entirely and keep on working hard (lousy father scenario) or take it relatively easy to spend time with the kids. When someone has kids who is not filthy rich (ie most people), I think the outcome has more variance. Some will have a hard time adjusting, some will decide that money and work aren’t very important, and some will become more ambitious in order to provide for the family. Also, the outcome can change over time. The shock to the system of the early years can be replaced by naked ambition as the kids get older and college looms. Etc. One thing I enjoy about working with people with kids is that they generally seem more discerning about what to spend time on at work, and they have a good sense of rudimentary people management skills.
- johnny313 7y agoIs the willingness to make work the most important thing in one's life really this important?
- epx 7y agoIn my case, it was the opposite. I was prepared to retire at 35. Having a kid changed perspective completely in the direction of being more ambitious.
- CoolGuySteve 7y ago> if you’re an employer and want to hire someone ambitious and productive whose first priority is the company’s project Sounds like you're searching for a rube above all else. Someone dumb enough to sacrifice their personal life to your "vision" to this extent will probably exhibit poor judgement in other aspects of your business. Just hire someone reasonable, with or without kids. If they start pulling away from your project, maybe take that as information that you're not handling the rudder quite right.
- allovernow 7y ago>Someone dumb enough to sacrifice their personal life to your "vision" to this extent will probably exhibit poor judgement in other aspects of your business. Honestly, a lot of us programmers don't really have lives outside of work and enjoy what we do. Maybe that advantage inspires snark in those for whom work is not a 1# priority.
- DougN7 7y agoI don’t think snark was intended. Work is a means to an end, not the end itself (or shouldn’t be in my opinion but other opinions surely exist too).
- CoolGuySteve 7y agoIf that’s the case then unless you own a significant part of the company you should either be starting your own company, learning something perpendicular to your day job, or you know, engaging in leisure. Don’t be a rube.
- meowface 7y ago100%. Making your life your work isn't necessarily bad, if you've come to that decision of your own free will and after careful consideration of the alternatives, but making your life a faceless cog in a bureaucracy is a life unlived. It only makes sense to treat work that way if you're a co-founder or co-owner.
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- 3fe9a03ccd14ca5 7y ago> In other words, if you’re an employer and want to hire someone ambitious and productive whose first priority is the company’s project… recruit from among the childless and, for long-term employer-employee happiness, the infertile. Why do you think so many startups still headquarter in SF even though there’s much better (and cheaper) places? by virtue of the cost of living alone you’re going to end up with a much younger work force. Personally, I don’t mind that someone who wants unwavering and unquestionable commitment to the company (slavery) passes up on me.
- JohnDeHope 7y agoThis reminds me of the modern take on ancient spiritual practices. “Deities are unfalsifisble lol. Also I’m kind of depressed and find life meaningless.” It feels like missing the forest for the trees. Or throwing the baby out with bath water.
- lesserknowndan 7y agoThat article title disgracefully misrepresents what Paul Graham has written in the text quoted. Paul Graham described his own experience of how having children affected his priorities. In the material quoted he never advocated anything regarding hiring. Philip Greenspun may have been inspired by Paul's article to come to his own epiphany regarding hiring, but that is exactly what it is - Philip Greenspun's opinion. I don't know Paul Graham's personal and financial situation, but my impression is that he is someone who has the luxury of reprioritising "work" without major personal consequences. I would suggest that for most "average" people life changes like getting married, buying property, and having children make people more attentive to work responsibilities because they literally can no longer afford to get fired. Edited - fixed some grammar.
- compscistd 7y agoThis isn’t a great conclusion from Graham’s post. If you’re really trying to make this connection, then employers are incentivized to hire people with children since you can more accurately gauge their aspirations, work habits, performance during an interview after they’ve already had the child-having transformation. On the other hand, a childless interviewee may change drastically after having children. In the end, I like Paul Graham’s introspection but assuming employers would see this as some kind of direction to prefer childless candidates over childbearing ones is far fetched
- dangus 7y agoI want to bust out my Jump to Conclusions Mat after reading this post.
- coldtea 7y agoMaybe the "Draw the obvious implied takeaway" mat would suit it better?
- dangus 7y agoI didn't think it was obvious. The original author never said these life changes made him a less valuable or effective employee. The original author wouldn't advocate against his own interests, i.e. tell other companies not to hire people like him. The original author never made any claim about losing overall productivity, only that having a child changed his feelings on what holds priority in life.
- unreal37 7y agoPhilip Greenspun is a legend in the blogging space. One of the pioneers. But that's not what Paul Graham said or implied. For him, having kids changed him. For others, it's a different effect. If you'd rather be at the office until 1am, 7 days per week, don't get into a relationship. Nor have kids. Luckily, very few jobs are like that. And the people working there are doing so voluntarily.
- m3kw9 7y agoIf the person has children works better than one without, hire the person with children. Also, don’t hire the person with children if there is such an exact person without it.
- halfjoking 7y agoDoes ambition matter for a non-founder? If they were more ambitious they might always be looking for better, and bigger things. I think companies care more if you are a mercenary or a kool-aid drinker. They want kool-aid drinkers that will give everything for the company without asking much, that's why they always go on about their mission as if it's a cult. Whether you are into that BS or not has nothing to do with if you had kids or not.
- 8bitsrule 7y agoGood thing that somebody had children, else you'd have to learn ALL the things your employees learned to do, so you could make big bucks and bragging rights from their labor. Hey Christmas spirits ... I think we found Ebenezer again.
- analog31 7y agoIronically, the assumption that people with kids are less ambitious may be false. Some anecdotes: 1. Long ago, the newspaper reported about a study of single unskilled women in south Chicago, where it turned out that the women with kids tended to work more hours for higher wages, and often commuted further to their jobs. 2. Another study, reporting that a disproportionate number of people change jobs in pursuit of higher pay after the birth of their first child. I was one of those people, and I know a lot of other people who did the same. 3. Completely anecdotal and informal survey of colleagues, that the people who went into the thankless but higher paying jobs in project or middle management are exclusively parents. I've never met a project manager who was single. All of this is with the usual caveats about "studies" and anecdotes, but the suggestion is that economic motivation can make people more productive. Or at least, it's enough of a counter-argument to the conventional wisdom to justify reserving judgement in the absence of more robust evidence.
- jotakami 7y agoI’m way more productive than before I became a parent because fatherhood triggered a cascade of positive lifestyle changes and priority rearrangements. You could argue that non-parents are better employees, all else equal. But all else is never equal. Tangentially, regardless of the outcome for productivity, I would argue that a society with more parents is a better society than one with fewer.
- anonymousiam 7y agoI recall when I was in my 20's, unmarried with no kids, how resentful I felt toward all of the older folks with kids. I worked a lot longer and harder than they could, and I was more focused on my work. I was satisfied with my salary, but (at the time) my company provided full medical and dental insurance for the entire family of an employee. I viewed this as a form of unfair discrimination because they were effectively earning more money (in the context of the value of their benefits) just because they had a family. Of course once I got married and had kids, my selfish self-interest prevailed and I no longer cared about whether or not it was unfair. Companies like Space-X and Google thrive on exploiting young single people, but on average, they can only get away with it for a decade or less (until the employee gets married).
- jotakami 7y agoIf only as young people we could recognize how important it is for society as a whole that people continue to become parents... then we might not resent the unfairness.
- coldtea 7y ago>because they were effectively earning more money (in the context of the value of their benefits) just because they had a family. Well, because of that little fact, they also helped society, civilization, and ultimately business too, to continue existing going forward...
- ykevinator 7y agoPaul Graham is mediocre,not worth arguing about. I think he preached then left his wife for his secretary or somwrhing.
- sam_lowry_ 7y ago...better hire those burdened with a mortgage.
- nikolay 7y agoYeah, keep giving advises witch break the law, PG! This, in addition to ageism, is a serious and underestimated problem, especially in technology!
- matthewaveryusa 7y agoSample size one anecdote here: Having a child made me more focused, ambitious and productive at work. I had a moment of lucidity where I decided to drop all my tech related hobbies and instead split the new-found time between caring for my child and doubling down my efforts at work. Having kids can reset your priorities to the benefit of your employer.
- maximp 7y agoWow, what malarkey, what clickbait. PG says nothing about ambition at his 9-5 job, which is what a job should be. If an employer is looking for someone available around the clock, who'll work endless hours tirelessly, complaint-free... well, that's not a place I want to work at. That is, pardon the mixed metaphor, a red-flag-toxic-expectation. I read this essay as being about personal ambition - the hours you put in above and beyond on your own projects.