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Be careful, one day you might realize you missed something important. After I'm dead, my kids can continue my work better than I could do it myself.

sershe 7y ago
You may also realize that you missed something important by not founding a startup, climbing Everest, travelling the world, paragliding, writing a fantasy novel, or getting hooked on heroin. This is a vacuous statement that can be used as a reason to do anything at all, or nothing. After I'm dead they can toss my body outside the gates. And they can give me a stick so I could fend off the scavengers - that is, if I care to ;)
james-skemp 7y ago
> After I'm dead, my kids can continue my work better than I could do it myself. Assuming they find your work interesting. I'm really hoping my son enjoys playing games (board and video) and programming, but he could totally turn into a jock. (Although genetics says he'll never be good at basketball.)
- Aeolun 7y ago
  If he turns into a jock, then he can continue all the work you never quite got around to ;)
kelnos 7y ago
I would tend to think that, for people truly on the fence, it is much better to not have kids and later regret it, than to have kids and regret that. At least with the former, you can still have an otherwise full life, and you're the only one who bears the brunt of your regret. If you have kids and regret them, the kids are going to suffer for it, even if you do everything you can to hide that regret from them.
- hellllllllooo 7y ago
  You can always adopt or foster children if you really regret it later. There are plenty of children that exist that need good homes without having to create more.
  - ido 7y ago
    As someone who knows several people who wanted to adopt - it's not as easy as you might think (at least unless you are able to spend a lot of money adopting children from abroad). Adopting older kids who come from problematic backgrounds has a significant probability of them having experienced some sort of trauma before they got to you. It's absolutely a great thing to do to take care of these kids but potentially very difficult as well. This is why it's very difficult to get to adopt babies - they are the ones that everyone wants. Not saying this should make anyone not adopt just that it's not as easy as you seem to think - western countries actually don't have that many orphans & a lot of people who want to adopt them (which is of course a good thing!).

sershe 7y ago

You may also realize that you missed something important by not founding a startup, climbing Everest, travelling the world, paragliding, writing a fantasy novel, or getting hooked on heroin. This is a vacuous statement that can be used as a reason to do anything at all, or nothing. After I'm dead they can toss my body outside the gates. And they can give me a stick so I could fend off the scavengers - that is, if I care to ;)

james-skemp 7y ago

> After I'm dead, my kids can continue my work better than I could do it myself. Assuming they find your work interesting. I'm really hoping my son enjoys playing games (board and video) and programming, but he could totally turn into a jock. (Although genetics says he'll never be good at basketball.)

Aeolun 7y ago
If he turns into a jock, then he can continue all the work you never quite got around to ;)

kelnos 7y ago

I would tend to think that, for people truly on the fence, it is much better to not have kids and later regret it, than to have kids and regret that. At least with the former, you can still have an otherwise full life, and you're the only one who bears the brunt of your regret. If you have kids and regret them, the kids are going to suffer for it, even if you do everything you can to hide that regret from them.

hellllllllooo 7y ago
You can always adopt or foster children if you really regret it later. There are plenty of children that exist that need good homes without having to create more.
- ido 7y ago
  As someone who knows several people who wanted to adopt - it's not as easy as you might think (at least unless you are able to spend a lot of money adopting children from abroad). Adopting older kids who come from problematic backgrounds has a significant probability of them having experienced some sort of trauma before they got to you. It's absolutely a great thing to do to take care of these kids but potentially very difficult as well. This is why it's very difficult to get to adopt babies - they are the ones that everyone wants. Not saying this should make anyone not adopt just that it's not as easy as you seem to think - western countries actually don't have that many orphans & a lot of people who want to adopt them (which is of course a good thing!).