So true. We have two kids under 3. I am far more drained taking care of them for a day than I am after a day in the office. We pay $42,000 a year in childcare

So true. We have two kids under 3. I am far more drained taking care of them for a day than I am after a day in the office. We pay $42,000 a year in childcare (2 kids, $1,750 /month, which is one of the cheapest options in our area). After taxes its 90%+ of my wife’s entire salary. It doesn’t make financial sense for her to work, but she’s good at her job, and she’s in a career where taking years off is punishing (law). Honestly though, a big part of it is she wants to work, stress and all. It makes sense to me. As for me, I would prefer to stay home with them instead of work, but I am the primary earner and am also in a career that punishes people severely who take time off (finance). So here we are.